What kind of life you have with the kind of person you are with.
As the saying goes, stand at thirty.
People at the age of 30 should be able to rely on their own skills, independently assume their own responsibilities, and have determined their own life goals and development direction.
At this time, the whole family depends on you for a living, and you can no longer act recklessly like you did when you were young. Fight with the best years of your life, and you will live up to it.
Some people say: if you want to know someone, go and see his friends.
Generally speaking, half of a person's values come from the knowledge he has learned and the society he has come into contact with, while the other half come from family and friends. However, more often, the latter plays a more direct guiding role.
To put it simply, you will have what kind of life you are with.
As for making friends, Gui Guzi said: either with morality, or with party friends, or with wealth, or with color.
Gui Guzi gives four ways to make friends: by morality, by faith, by money, and by beauty.
After thirty, these three kinds of people can get to know each other deeply, and these three kinds of people must break up.
01
Get to know three kinds of people.
one. A man with a kind heart can make a deep acquaintance.
Gui Guzi: loyal words, selfless will, do not seek opposition, emotional loyalty and observation, appearance but peace, can make a deep acquaintance.
If a person is faithful in words, steady in behavior, unselfish because of his firm will, unrequited in return for good deeds, honest and observant in heart, unhandsome but quiet and steady in temperament, he is a kind-hearted person who can be deeply acquainted.
No one will like a narrow-minded person. It is always comforting to open your heart and be kind-hearted. Benevolent people get blessings, the more concerned about the blessings, the smaller the reward.
two. People who are polite to others can get to know each other deeply.
Gui Guzi: rich, respectful, thrifty and dignified, courteous but not arrogant. He who is virtuous can make a deep acquaintance.
If a person is still respectful, diligent and dignified after being rich and illustrious, and polite but not arrogant to others, he is a blessed person who can be deeply acquainted with him.
To treat others with courtesy should not be superficial. Look at others with appreciation, discover their strengths, and admit your own shortcomings, and you will gain the respect of others.
Borrow the wisdom of others, improve yourself, and avoid detours, this is the real way to success.
three. A man who strives for progress can make a deep acquaintance.
Gui Guzi: work and can be effective, poor but can reach, measures to perform meritorious service and can achieve, can make deep friends.
If a person can deal with it effectively when there is a sudden change, if he is in poverty and can make progress, and if he can achieve his wish by doing meritorious service close to him, he is a wise person, and this kind of person can be deeply acquainted with him.
True good friends are those who encourage each other and are passionate about life. Hawking said:
If you are disabled, it may not be your fault, but it is no good complaining about society or counting on the pity of others. One should have a positive attitude and make the best use of the status quo.
We can't choose our own life, but we can choose our friends who live.
As the ancients said: those who are close to red are red, and those who are close to ink are black.
In the end, those who follow the butterfly will see the fragrant flowers, while those who follow the fly will only reach the dirty ditch.
02
Break up with three kinds of people.
one. If there is a discrepancy between words and deeds, you can break off your friendship.
Gui Guzi: words and deeds are not like, at the end of the day, they are contrary to each other, outside and inside, and those who set up holiday festivals to feel, see and hear must break off their friendship.
If there is a discrepancy between words and deeds, the beginning and the end run counter to each other, the heart does not match the outside, and a false reputation is used to confuse the ears of others, this kind of person cannot make friends.
In the Analects of Confucius, Zi Gong asked his teacher Confucius how to be a gentleman. Confucius told him: first act his words, and then follow them. Do what you want to say first, and then say it. )
Although it is a simple sentence, Confucius used it to reveal the key to becoming a gentleman, and he himself is actually the best example of the unity of knowledge and deeds and the consistency of words and deeds.
If you do not say what you say first, but boast, and teach and persuade others with theories that you have not tested, it will only be appropriate to the contrary. As Confucius said: clever words, such people, most of them take advantage of profit rather than benevolence.
A person who seems to be the same, everything can be said to others, there is little guilt, suspicion, scruples and other dark, the heart is naturally green, blooming step by step.
two. People who are mercenary can break up their friendship.
Gui Guzi: if you eat with relatives, deliver goods with goods, lose profits with profits, gain its power and reputation and hide in things, you must break off the friendship.
If a person maintains a relationship with others by eating and drinking, makes friends with others by giving bribes and gifts, and shares the same taste at the expense of others and himself, and hides his feelings once he has power and reputation, such a person is greedy and despicable.
There are always some people in the world who are mercenary. When all the benefits have been achieved, they will no longer care about you, and you will be completely forgotten. Because you are just a pawn and a tool in his hand.
This kind of person can not be handed over, the reason is very simple, in order to prevent this guy from selling himself one day, you can't force the big gray wolf to eat grass.
three. Those who covet small gains can break up their friendship.
Gui Guzi: small knowledge but not great understanding, small ability but not great success, those who regulate small things but do not know the family must break up their friendship.
If someone has only some cleverness but no great learning, has only small abilities but cannot do great things, and only pays attention to small interests but does not know human relations and morality, such people can break off their friendship.
Some people are only willing to take, unwilling to pay, especially like greedy petty bargains, like shoplifting, there are benefits, there are interests, pennies are pinched, and there is no immediate loss.
This kind of person will never do things faithfully and give wholeheartedly, but eat what is in the bowl, look at what is in the pot, and always think about giving back.
In their opinion, it is right to give as much as they want, and it is even more right for them to give nothing back to others.
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