Yanxi Strategy: kindness with low EQ is the greatest evil of human nature.

I used to think like most people: as long as you have a good intention, no matter what you do, no matter what the consequences, you are a good person you deserve.

Slowly, I realized that this was not the case.

Su Ling once said that it takes at least two people for rumors to cause harm, your enemies denigrate you, and your friends tell you. Rumors won't hurt you, but friendly reminders and messages from friends do harm indirectly.

Friends here perfect interpretation of the kindness of low EQ is a sharp weapon to hurt people.

People who do bad things with good intentions are no different from their opponents. Even, in this world, I don't know how many people create countless evil people in the name of goodness.

Kindness with low EQ is sometimes the greatest evil of human nature.

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During this period of time, the palace drama "Yanxi Strategy" has become a hit.

Ask my friends why they like the show, and they all say it looks good. The hostess is by no means a weak chicken, silly and sweet, but a black lotus with vengeance and no patience.

Because the brain is flexible and articulate, so the palace fighting ability explodes, one set to solve an enemy, can be called the harem survival of the small expert.

It is such a palace fight boss, Wei Liulu at the beginning is not to fight for favor to come to the deep palace, but to avenge my sister.

She did not believe that her sister was morally corrupt, was ashamed to see others, hanged herself and split her coffin in the middle of the night to prove that her sister had been harmed by others.

At this time, a large group of relatives came to accuse her of disrespecting her deceased relatives, and believed that her sister had misbehaved, and asked her to apologize to her people immediately.

She said clearly in her heart, "I was raised by my sister when I was a child. I haven't eaten a mouthful of them or drank a mouthful of water. Why should I let them take care of me?" They do not distinguish between black and white, disrelish elder sister defiled, even refused to give a piece of loess, let me apologize to them, why.

This wave of relatives seems to think for the sake of their sister, for the honor of the family, for the sake of wreath, but the reality is that the death of the elder sister is unclear, the reputation of the family can not be expanded, and the anger of celluloid can not be relieved.

This is the case with low EQ kindness, they often only see the appearance of things, but ignore the real root of the problem.

With this blind goodness, they seem to be helping the victims, but their actions actually act as accomplices to evil.

When goodness cannot distinguish between right and wrong, it cannot be called true goodness, either stupid or bad.

There is a saying that if good is irrational, it is a crime.

And when good people do good things, but do not know that they are actually doing evil, this is the most absurd and saddest evil in human nature.

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When we were young, we all heard the story of "the Farmer and the Snake". In the cold winter, the farmer found a frozen snake by the side of the road, so he put it in his arms and waited for the snake to wake up. Instinctively, he bit the farmer, and finally the farmer died of poison. Before he died, the farmer said remorsefully, "I wanted to do good deeds, but I got this kind of retribution because I lost my life because of my shallow knowledge."

This is such a simple truth, in fact, many people do not know. Otherwise, why would there be so many stories with good intentions and unrewarded intentions?

The mention of Hangzhou nanny arson, which shocked the nation last year, is still infuriating and distressing.

The hostess is a kind and gentle woman, the daughter is beautiful and lovely, the son is smart, the husband is successful, and the whole family is happy, but everything is ruined by the nanny Mo Huanjing.

The hostess was so kind that when the babysitter was found to steal for the first time, instead of calling the police, she continued to use it. perhaps she thought that her kindness might influence the wicked to be good and go astray.

But the wicked are the wicked, and their nature sometimes cannot be changed.

They even made up lies and borrowed money from the hostess under the pretext of buying a house in their hometown. 40,000 yuan, there is no doubt that all this money has been filled into the gambling pit.

Not to mention, after losing money, in order to try to raise money, he pawned watches, gold wares and other valuables from the hostess's house, until the fire got out of control and caused a great disaster.

Ironically, before Mo Huanjing came to the Lin family, she was found to have stolen her master's property and was fired. Suppose that if the hostess had decisively dismissed the babysitter in the first theft, she would not have caused disaster to herself.

The reason why there are many tragedies in the world is that good people always have an illusion: they always want to influence evil, but instead of getting better, evil brings disaster to themselves.

Boundless kindness is not only the connivance of evil, but also the cruelty to yourself.

When you release goodness, you must have your own limits and principles. Don't let goodness become a bellows to encourage malice and finally set yourself on fire. Every kindness should be properly placed and should not be sprinkled at will.

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Sometimes, we have to admit that the collective is unwise.

What others say, we follow.

A large group of people came up to you and told you that if you want to be filial, you must be filial, no matter what you have encountered.

A large group of people point at your nose and scold, you are a bitch, you have to bear the moral name.

In the past, I had a good feeling for Zhou Libo. I thought he was humorous and EQ was very high, but after an experience, my impression of him has changed a lot.

On a variety show, a girl was unknowingly arranged by the program group and host Zhou Libo to identify herself with her parents who abandoned her more than 20 years ago.

Abandoned when young, children grow up better and come to know each other again, the parents should not be too selfish.

In the face of this, the girl was very disgusted and directly refused to recognize her parents.

Zhou Libo said a paragraph that was directly sprayed into a beehive by netizens. He said that girls are narrow-minded and should learn to forgive, think of others and be considerate of their parents' difficulties, otherwise they will never be happy.

This is totally moral kidnapping and blackmail. People who have not experienced it in person are not entitled to be forgiven by others. Moreover, morality should not teach others how to live. It is the boundary of self-discipline, not a tool to judge others.

In "No questions to the West", Liu Shufen accused Wang Minjia of seducing her math teacher and labeling her as broken shoes. Not only that, but also brought a group of people to collective criticism, tried a person in the name of morality, and even lynched, so that Wang Minjia almost died under random punches.

As long as the victims put on the label of sewage, no one cares about the truth, use the collective strength to judge a person, each person add a tile, add a brick, there is no need to bear responsibility afterwards.

I just gave her a push. After the glacier collapsed, not a single snowflake would admit that it had anything to do with her, and no one would admit to his crime.

In the name of morality, asking others to do things that they do not want to do and do not want to do is a kind of low EQ kindness, but also the most suffocating evil in human nature.

Always remember that morality is the lowest limit for everyone to restrain themselves, not the rule of requiring others with their hands crossed, and no one is qualified to judge others.

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As Bo Bonnie said in a speech in "wonderful work": kindness is very precious, kindness does not have teeth, that is weakness.

Therefore, your kindness should take some edge.

Releasing goodness requires reason, limits, emotional intelligence and restraint. Otherwise, kindness will be meaningless.

Remember, your kindness is precious and not everyone deserves it.