Are you afraid of being alone?

01

Now there is a saying on the Internet that a good-looking soul is the same, and one in a million interesting souls, so what kind of soul can be called interesting?

I looked it up on the Internet, and there is an explanation that I think is very appropriate. Only by learning to enjoy loneliness can you have an interesting soul.

Aristotle even said that he who likes to be alone is either a beast or a god.

Indeed, loneliness makes people feel very uncomfortable, but is it really good to cram yourself desperately into a circle that is not suitable for you, and then pretend that you are not alone?

I don't know if you have ever had such an experience, when you are upset and want to talk to someone, only to open your Wechat friend list and find that there are a lot of people here who have no idea who they are. There are very few people who can talk to you out of hundreds of friends.

It suddenly occurred to me that Wang Han said in Mars Intelligence that life has become extremely comfortable since he deleted his Wechat friends to less than 100 people.

So I started deleting Wechat friends.

As the saying goes, low-quality social interaction is not as good as high-quality solitude.

Although Zhou Guoping said that being able to socialize with people is an outward ability, and being able to be alone is an inward ability.

02

I used to be very afraid of being alone, so I would force myself to integrate into a group, regardless of whether it was appropriate or not, always afraid of being alone.

So we are often annoyed by whose cold face or who leaves. We always want to cater to others and do not want to do things that can be done as a group by ourselves.

Just like I never liked Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory, I think he must have no friends in real life because he is so impersonal.

But as I grew older, I slowly changed my view of Sheldon. As he said, I couldn't understand the fact that people spend their whole lives searching for another human life together.

Maybe I am too interesting to be accompanied by others.

To really grow up is to be able to live in peace with loneliness, as long Yingtai wrote in Dear Andre:

The group emotion that pushes and joys together, and the carefree and unsuspicious peer affection is deep, which can only be found in adolescence in one's life.

In the process of growing up, we inevitably have to get along with loneliness and spend less time on useless social activities.

Don't sink in Douyin and Weibo, and don't have to put your moments where you read them last time.

Everyone's life only belongs to themselves and has nothing to do with others. You have to take your time to find your true and peaceful self.