If there are three neighbors, there are three relatives who don't go.

After going through the ditches and ridges of the years, living to this age, I have tasted the ups and downs, joys and sorrows of life, what I should have, and what I have experienced, I have become more and more clear:

The most important thing to be a man is to be happy.

Don't do the things that ask for trouble, don't hand in those who don't like it, and don't invite too many irrelevant people into your life. The world is your own and has nothing to do with others.

There are three things in the neighborhood

Carnegie said: many of the troubles in life come from blindly keeping up with others and forgetting to enjoy our own life.

The comparison of people is exasperating. Many people are unhappy, not because they are not doing well, but because they are jealous that the people around them are better off than they are.

In fact, there are no north and south frustrations in life, sorrow in the palace, laughter in the hut, you envy others, and others envy you.

There is no need to compare everything, grasp their own happiness, is the most important thing in life.

First, not compared to the family.

Many people complain about their poor family background, envy other people's wealth, envy other people's fathers who are senior government officials or corporate tycoons, envy other people's mothers' beauty and elegance, and envy other people's gentle and considerate partners.

Everyone who appears in life is the fate of a previous life. Only by knowing how to cherish and be grateful can you appreciate happiness and happiness.

Although the family is not rich, but family harmony is the greatest wealth; although parents are ordinary people, they may not be able to give you everything in the world, but they will try their best to give you everything they have, and they love you deeply; your partner may not be perfect, but you must have a solid arm to lean on. An endless supply of money.

Between neighbors, there is no need to compare materials, materials can meet your needs of life, but may not meet your spiritual needs, money can buy materials, but not health, happiness and true feelings.

There is no need to compare the family with others, the whole family is safe and harmonious, is the greatest happiness.

Second, it is not comparable to matter.

Many people feel that they do not have enough, envy other people's luxury houses, high-end cars, envy other people's famous brands, and have the use of them.

The contented are poor and rich in heart, and the greedy are rich in body and poor in heart. Contentment is the richest person in the world, contentment can always be happy.

Third, not compared to children.

We often hear other people's children, parents always say to their own children: you look at other people's children, the first time, you see other people's children, how promising, you look at yourself, even half of others are not as good as others.

Comparing children to others will undermine their self-confidence, hurt their self-esteem, and even damage the relationship between parents and their children.

Heaven and earth to create my talent must have its use, every child has advantages and strengths, know how to appreciate and praise the child, is the greatest love for the child.

Whether the child is successful or not is not the most important, but the most important thing is that the child is safe, healthy and happy.

There are three people who don't go.

When you reach middle age, there are three kinds of relatives you don't have to associate with.

First, snobbish relatives.

I'm sure you have relatives like this:

When you are poor, he never looks at you. He pretends not to see you when you meet him in the street. If you are in trouble, he won't help, or even throw a stone into a well. He is tired of you entering his house.

But once you are rich, he will boo and bow to you.

In this way, if you see high worship and low trample snobbish relatives, you don't have to interact with each other.

All he sees is money, and his feelings for you are not from the bottom of his heart, but from your money and want to take advantage of you.

Second, relatives who often borrow money from you.

Everyone has times of emergency, and when relatives are in trouble, it is a good thing to do good deeds and accumulate virtue.

However, some relatives have become accustomed to borrowing money, gluttonous and lazy, and even gambling. If you lend him money, he will not only be ungrateful, but will continue to borrow money from you. Once you do not lend it to him, he will fall out with you.

The so-called emergency does not save laziness, help the poor, often ask you to borrow money relatives, must stay away, otherwise, he will treat you as a cash machine and squeeze you as a matter of course.

Look down on your relatives.

Lu Xun said: when people reach a certain age, they must lose four things: meaningless wine bureaus, false friends, people who don't love you, and relatives who despise you.

Looking down on your relatives will only treat you coldly, humiliate you, belittle you, laugh at you, undermine your confidence, deplete your enthusiasm, and cast a lot of haze on your life.

It doesn't matter whether you look down on your relatives or not. May you remember your value and resist malice when you are hit.

When you reach middle age, you should learn to subtract, not to compare three things, not to go to three relatives, so that you can live happily for the rest of your life.