The highest level of self-cultivation: talking comfortably and doing things reassuring

It's comfortable to talk.

1. Do not expose other people's shortcomings

A kind word warms the winter, but a bad word hurts the cold in June.

Words are sharp weapons, and people will be hurt if they are not careful, so you can't speak casually.

The ancients said: don't say short words in front of dwarves.

When you speak, don't expose other people's scars, otherwise you can only hurt others and yourself.

People live a face, tree live a skin, everyone has dignity, you hurt other people's face, others will not give you face.

Respect is mutual, you respect me, I can respect you.

2. Don't talk nonsense

Ziji asked the teacher Mozi: why can't you talk more?

Mozi said: the constant barking of toads can only be annoying, but no one listens. If you look at the rooster, you will bark once or twice at dawn. The world vibrates, and people get up.

Some people ramble on for a long time, but can't get to the point. Such people can only waste their time and be boring.

If her ladyship does not say anything, she will be right in her words. a real gentleman can get to the point with a word and hit the point.

If you talk too much, you will lose. The more you talk, the more chances you will make mistakes.

So go over it in your head before you speak, pick up the main points, and don't say what you shouldn't say, otherwise you can only get yourself into trouble.

3. Don't talk big

The still water runs deep, and the real master never boasts of himself very much.

People who brag about themselves after three glasses of wine are generally incompetent.

If other people don't believe it, then just regard you as a brag, at best, you are a joke.

Others believe, toast you three points, once something comes to your head, only to find that it is not the case.

Deceive the trust of others, but also delay other people's affairs.

If you want to be down-to-earth, you have to do it when it comes to it. A spittle and a nail is a person's most basic reputation.

Doing things is reassuring.

1. Have a good heart and have a bottom line

A gentleman has something to do and something not to do.

The bottom line is the lowest standard and the foundation for a person to stand up.

Before and after others, they all have to keep their conscience.

The badminton men's singles champion once said: if the ball is out of bounds, the lost point can be fought back, and if you cross the bottom line, you may never be able to recover what is lost.

Accept good as good and evil as bad. It is not easy to learn well, but easy to learn bad.

Once you break through the bottom line and greet people, there will only be endless downfall.

Act recklessly, by any means, and eventually harm others and yourself.

For such people, no one dares to associate with them, let alone leave the matter to them.

2. Do things reliably and do not shirk.

Yu Qiuyu said: the greatest charm of a man is that he knows how to take responsibility.

Really reliable people, as long as it is promised, will do their best, must be done.

Even if they can't finish it, if something goes wrong, they will be responsible to the end.

Such a person makes people feel secure and at ease.

Many people like to pass the buck to others and pick themselves clean.

Performance is not good to blame the environment, blame colleagues, blame customers, only do not blame themselves.

They do not feel guilty and have no motivation to correct, so those who do not dare to take responsibility are also the worst in business ability.

No matter how capable you are, you can bear as much responsibility as you can. Conversely, only those who dare to undertake can make continuous progress.

3. Work seriously and have the ability

Responsibility and bottom line are the premise and ability is the foundation.

If one's basic skills are not solid, it will be very difficult to accomplish what others have told him.

As the saying goes, there is a specialty in the art industry. If you do things for others, you have to be professional.

No matter which industry, it is necessary to study hard, through unremitting efforts, in order to become a leader in this industry.

Zhuangzi once told a story: Bao Ding Jie Niu.

It is said that a man named Bao Ding, a cow-killing knife can walk around the whole body of the cow and can dissect the cow perfectly without damaging the blade.

Other people like to find him to kill cattle, this is the spirit of craftsmen.

A person should have a serious attitude and professional ability to do things.

In their own industry, like the cook, do not slack off, not negligent, Excelsior, and constantly improve themselves.

Only in this way can we be responsible for ourselves and let others rest assured.