Five manifestations to be abolished by a person

There is a saying in the writer Yu Hua's novel alive: no matter how big a person's life is, if he wants to die, he can't live anyway.

In the final analysis, what kind of life a person can have, what kind of road he is on, whether it is good or bad, right or wrong, the most important thing lies in himself.

Many people have a good hand and end up losing badly. In fact, it is not because the opponent is too strong, but because they play by themselves.

A person who discards himself will often have these five performances. Uncle Ha hopes that if you have something, you will change it, and if you do not, you will be encouraged.

one

Greedy for safety and unwilling to go out of the comfort zone

What is the current state of many people?

My heart yearns for a better life, but I don't want to go out of my comfort zone.

Want a perfect figure, but can not take a step, can not control the mouth; want to get good grades, but do not get into the book, too lazy to work hard; want a monthly salary of 100,000, but refuse to work hard

Sorry, there is no such good thing in the world. Even children know that they want to have milk, so they have to make a fuss and cry a few times before they can reap the fruits of hard work.

I found a very strange and common phenomenon: the more excellent people are, the more they love to struggle and work harder, while the more mediocre they are and the more they should work hard, they live a very stable life and don't bother to toss about.

There may not be much difference in a year or two, but five years later, ten years later, the gap between these two types of people is particularly obvious.

Those who once lived comfortably and comfortably, the road will become more and more difficult, and those who love to toss about will be freer and freer.

I'm not asking you to keep changing jobs and messing around, but I hope you don't have no goals, don't dawdle along and waste yourself.

As the saying goes, born in distress and die in peace and contentment, sometimes we have to listen to the words of our ancestors.

A word for you: if you want to get the best thing in the world, please give the best yourself to the world first.

two

Complains too much and doesn't like anything.

The gap between people is really very different. Some people will fascinate you when they open their mouths, while others will make you want to avoid and complain.

The house price is too high, the wages are too low, the hearts of the people are too bad, the wine and meat stinks in Zhumen, the roads are frozen to death, and the world is too unfair.

Some people have a lot of hostility, always complaining, don't like anything, don't like anything, give him the whole talk show and complain for a whole year.

Such a person is doomed to be a mess in life, and there is bound to be no great development in the workplace.

The boss arranged a task, and before seeing how much the task was and how difficult it was, he began to complain about why there were so many things.

For the sake of others: such an employee, if you are the boss, will you use him?

Not only will you not use him, but you may even fire him. If you put it on the battlefield, it will disturb the morale of the army and must be cleaned up.

Personally, I don't like complainers very much, and I think such people actually suffer. Either you quit, then don't complain, don't do anything else, and don't fall behind.

Complaining can not solve the problem, it will only make things worse. Whether a person is lucky or not has a lot to do with his own state of mind.

To give you a sentence from Wang Xiaobo: all people's pain is essentially anger at their own incompetence.

three

I can't see anyone good, but I like to go down.

There is an ancient fable called: fifty steps laugh a hundred steps.

Two soldiers were defeated from the front. One escaped fifty paces, the other a hundred paces. Those who escaped fifty paces sneered at those who escaped a hundred paces, saying that he was useless and timid.

In fact, both of them were running away, but they ran far and near differently.

Many people are like this now, do not compare with excellent people, like to compare downward, to some people who are not as good as their own, have a sense of arrogant superiority.

But what about meeting someone better than yourself?

They are also accustomed to "good" upper body, a lot of inner drama, can always imagine a variety of reasons to prove that the excellence of others is not the right way, their own ability is not poor, but bad luck, bad background, or even too kind and upright.

In short, I just don't admit that others are really better than themselves.

Such people, it is very easy to forgive themselves, so it is difficult to make progress, and eventually become useless step by step.

Please make less excuses and work harder, otherwise there will never be a breakthrough.

four

Three minutes of heat, not enough focus.

We learned the story of "kitten fishing" when we were young.

After chasing butterflies and catching dragonflies, the last fish was not caught, but the mother cat came back with a full load.

Do anything, half-hearted, three minutes of heat, can not really put into it, it is very difficult to do well.

Many people are now in such a state that a job can not last long, and it is always not appropriate to change jobs again and again.

Finally, I went around in a circle and found that the good time was gone, and I didn't get anything or learn anything.

Such people usually aim too high, can not support their ambitions, and do not want to do it if they are too poor to do so, but the good ones cannot be done.

What can be achieved overnight in this world? how can you do great things well if you can't do small things well and accumulate and precipitate little by little?

five

Don't study, refuse to grow.

For a professional, when he reaches middle age, the three most terrible words are: I won't.

Last year, the eldest sister of the Tangshan Toll Station was fired and then went to ask for an explanation. This is a typical example.

In the face of sudden changes, I don't know what to do.

In the final analysis, this is because they have been in a closed state for a long time, satisfied with the status quo, do not learn, and refuse to grow.

There will only be more and more variables in this world, and the stability you think may suddenly fall apart one day in the future.

Have you ever thought about what to do then?

Many people resist and reject this kind of learning, thinking that they don't need to read any more when they leave school.

In fact, learning is a lifetime thing, you must constantly come into contact with new things, new knowledge, new thinking, so that you will not be eliminated in the tide of the times.

In Alice in the Mirror, the Red Queen said to Alice: you have to keep running to stay where you are.

Those who do not learn and refuse to grow will eventually be abandoned step by step.

Everyone is the designer of his own life, and it's up to you to decide what kind of work or scrap you become in the end.