As a woman, she is not always strong, but she is not always weak.

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Watched two episodes of "the birth of actors", each episode has so many big names, so much traffic, but people's focus, but how can not avoid Zhang Ziyi.

So what kind of ability does she have in her that we can't help paying attention to her? I think she commented on the sharpness. Wherever you go, it is full of magnificence and domineering.

When we first entered the society, our elders were always telling us:

When you shoot a bird in the head, you must be slick in your life. Even if you encounter people and things you don't like, don't be the first to stand up and say, you have to learn to put up with it.

But if you really become a good girl in people's eyes, will your life be all right? My sister has been a relatively weak person since she was a child, and before she got married, my mother told her that her mother-in-law should be more patient than she was in her own home.

So she was patient everywhere after she got married, and finally she was reprimanded by her mother-in-law for any trifles, until one day she couldn't stand it, had a big quarrel and went back to her mother's house with the baby in her arms.

So sometimes putting up with it for a while doesn't bring peace, unless you can endure it for a lifetime.

Just like in the popular TV series "the temptation to go Home", Lin Pinru worked hard and followed four virtues at the beginning, but as a result, he was abandoned.

But when she has her own career and knows how to make her attitude clear, her ex-husband will bow to her again.

Of course, it is right to have a good temper, but if you blindly endure, you will be looked down upon by others. Only when you know how to lose your temper can you let people see your bottom line and backbone.

02

Sense of security in marriage never depends on a marriage license and a few moving vows, but from their own efforts, their own strength, whether financially or psychologically.

Just like the question that the host asked Zhang Yuqi in "Heart signal", if there is something wrong with the relationship, do you want the other person to take the initiative to solve it, but you will never take the initiative to be nice to him?

She said something like this:

I am the one who takes the initiative to solve the problem, and my bottom line is that I am not afraid of losing you.

Such independence may be a far cry from the traditional sense of a good woman who has a husband and a child, but she does live the way many girls want, because the person who can say it is a powerful person himself, both psychologically and financially. Do not be weak, do not compromise, there is a bottom line.

In many cases, weakness and compromise will not solve the problem. Therefore, as a woman, she is not always strong, but not blindly weak.

Women should learn to improve themselves, strive to become better, stronger, confident, independent and tempered, but have principles and bottom lines.

Remember: only when you are in full bloom, can you gain more breeze.