Four o'clock is enough to recognize a person.

Since ancient times, it is not easy to really identify a person.

The ancient saints and sages of China have also given us countless ways to know people.

Confucius said, "if you look at what it is, where it comes from, and where it is safe, how can a man be arrogant?" How can you be a man?

Zeng Guofan wrote "Bing Jian", which systematically tells the way of knowing people and seeing each other, which can be said to be a unique talent textbook.

In modern times, as long as we pay attention to the four points of a person, we can basically see his true face.

The choice in front of interests

Human nature is always for profit. In the face of interests, many people will pull off their camouflage. At this time, it is usually the best time to know and distinguish people.

If a person for his own interests, can be regardless of conscience, can not be affection, can abandon morality, can you still believe such a person?

It's better to stay away as soon as possible! Otherwise, once there is a conflict of interest with him, you will be extremely sad!

And if a person in front of interests, will not put down his inner principles, still adhere to the moral belief, can give priority to human relations and family, then this person will never be a mercenary villain, he must have a more noble choice.

The Analects of Confucius said: the superior man is metaphorical to righteousness and the villain to benefit.

To identify a person, you can use the good word formula.

A gentleman has the persistence of morality and conscience in his heart, so he will not harm virtue and righteousness for the sake of profit. Villains always weigh each other with profit as a yardstick, often violating morality and morality, even without scruples.

Leigh is a touchstone.

Treat people who are inferior to you.

Neither humble to the top nor conceited to the lower. This is the performance of a person with good character!

If a person flatters the superior and dictates the lower, then the person will not have good moral cultivation.

A moral and educated person respects everyone, and even if he communicates with people of lower status, he will not show arrogance.

More valuable people can be unyielding, in the face of power, can still maintain integrity.

Li Bai said: how can I bow down and serve the rich and powerful? it makes my heart very unhappy and uncomfortable.

This is the precious spirit.

Generally speaking, people are born with a sense of superiority in the face of people of lower status than themselves.

And if a person does not magnify his sense of superiority to trample down others, but treat him with respect, then he must have goodwill, integrity, and is a reliable person.

Attitude towards parents

We usually leave a good temper to others and a bad temper to our family.

This is a normal thing in psychology.

However, if a person can always maintain self-restraint and a pleasant face when dealing with the person closest to him, then this person has a great spiritual practice, which is admirable.

There is a chapter in the Analects:

Zi Xia asked filial piety.

Confucius said: color is difficult. When it comes to something, the disciples obey their hard work, have food and wine, and serve food, sir. Did you ever think of filial piety?

Is to tell us: to treat our parents, the most important thing is the attitude, the most difficult thing is the attitude, we must attach importance to the cultivation of attitude.

As the old saying goes: if life is just like the first sight.

Because, to deal with unfamiliar people, we can often maintain a good attitude.

Therefore, no matter how intimate we are, we should try to be agreeable rather than wayward.

To those close to them, most of them are well-educated, responsible and responsible, and they are more likely to be trusted and liked by others.

When faced with a promise

In the face of promises, it is often easy to see a person's character.

If a gentleman makes a promise, he will never break what he has promised. Such a person is very reliable!

And if a person can not keep his promise, casually go back on his promise, then this person has no personality to speak of!

The Analects of Confucius said: people do not have faith, I do not know what they can do. How can a cart and a trolley do not have a trolley?

People without integrity, people who break promises, just like cars without wheels, can't do anything.

Letter is often the most basic moral integrity of a person.

False, is one person plus one for.

There is no hypocrisy and emptiness in the world, only because there are people, there are too many falsehoods.

It is not easy to see a person clearly. But as long as you understand the above four points, you can have a clear target.

The human heart is unfathomable. I hope you will learn to know and distinguish people on the road of life. I also hope that the kind-hearted people in the world will be given preferential treatment, and the unpredictable people have nowhere to hide.