Don't go too far.
A person who is too shrewd has no friends
The ancients said that a rich family should learn widely, and a wise man should learn thick.
The smarter a person is, the more he wants to learn leniency and shrewdness. He is often annoying. He has to be serious about everything, take advantage of everything, and do all the good things. After a long time, even the best friends will leave you. If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if you look at it, you will have no friends.
It is easy to be shrewd and easy to be confused, but it is rare to pretend to be confused. Treat your friends with more care and less care before you can make friendship Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling).
2. To plan others is to set yourself up.
There were two brothers in need, and they met death. Death said: you two can only live one, you guess the fist, the loser will die.
The two brothers agreed to give a stone and live and die together.
Finally, the elder brother made the scissors and the younger brother made the cloth.
The elder brother sent out the scissors to keep the younger brother alive, but the younger brother wanted to kill the elder brother.
As a result, my brother lost and was executed by death.
Calculate others and finally set yourself up. When some people foolishly want to lose, he has already won! Some people actually lose when they try so hard to win.
Just like the verdict given to Wang Xifeng in A Dream of Red Mansions, the trick was so clever that it ruined Qing Qing's life.
People who are too shrewd often miss opportunities
A person who is too shrewd will lead to too much worry about gain and loss, everything should be analyzed in detail, be sure to list the gains and losses clearly, and then make a choice.
But how can there be so many choices in life? Most of the time, people's choice has a time window, that is, as we say, after this village, there will be no such shop.
Too shrewd people do not understand that there is no absolute perfection in this world. Perfection is not calculated, it is managed by heart.
Just like in the marriage market, many excellent girls stay at the end because they are so smart that they always want to find a perfect bridegroom. As a result, they calculate that all the excellent boys will get married, leaving only some more unreliable ones.
Therefore, you can not be too shrewd, if you are penny-pinching, when you finish your careful calculation, cauliflower will be cold.
02
Don't be so stupid.
1. Don't trust your heart easily.
As the ancients said, if you only say three points to everyone, you can make a complete heart. In the case of not knowing the details of each other, to deliver your heart, this is not sincere, it is stupid.
In this world, there is nothing to be courteous, either adultery or theft. A person who is too enthusiastic is probably not a good person. Do not trust others and confide in others until you really know him, or you will hurt yourself in the end.
Fast hot people also quickly cold, can withstand the test of talent the longest love, not easily entrusted to the heart, talent is not easy to be used, hurt.
2. don't be blindly kind
When a person is hungry and cold, you give him a bowl of rice, that is to solve his big problem, he will be grateful. However, if you continue to give him rice, he will take it for granted. One bowl of rice is not enough, two bowls of rice is not enough, three bowls of four bowls still feel that you only give a drop in the ocean.
There is often such a thing in life that the first time he provides help to a person, he will be grateful to you, and the second time his gratitude will be watered down. after the Nth time, he almost confidently thinks that it should be done for him, and even when there is no such help, he will hold a grudge against the helper.
Therefore, the kindness of people must be moderate! When a person does not want to make progress and asks for help, please put away your kindness in time.
3. Don't give in blindly
Be patient with a certain degree. To be patient means to lose principle; to be patient means to have no personality; to be patient means to be weak; to be patient means to face the danger of advancing step by step; and to be patient means you will come to a dead end. It is better to stand up at the right time and fight hard. Repeated tolerance only fosters its arrogance. Do it when it's time to do it, and those who get an inch should be dealt a head-on blow. I can't stand it. I don't have to stand it any longer.
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