Whose life will be plain sailing, but just quietly strong

Life will not be plain sailing, this mantra is often my golden sentence to comfort frustrated friends.

Of course, I also use it to relieve myself from time to time, especially when my luck is against the tide. If I hadn't ordered Ah Q's spirit, I wouldn't be alive today.

Just last month, the 120000-word manuscript I worked hard to write was terminated by the publishing house.

The reason is that the relevant departments of the publishing house have been disbanded and no one is in charge of my publishing.

Originally, joy and other new books were born, but now they have become empty, and the speed of the transformation between joy and sorrow is really too fast.

Recently, I announced the news of my pregnancy, and everyone gave me a warm blessing. I was deeply moved. But under the touch, in fact, I experienced varying degrees of test and fear in pregnancy.

When I was four months pregnant, when I was doing three-dimensional aberration, I was told that the child's heart was not very good, so I went to a larger hospital for a review and found that my heart was fine and there was something wrong with my kidney.

So I made a prenatal diagnosis of amniocentesis on the advice of a doctor's friend.

Lying on the operating bed, I was terrified. Apart from feeling naked in my lower body like an animal without dignity, what worried me most was that the operation was dangerous to the baby inside.

After the operation, there was a long wait for the results, and the process was very painful. after the results came out, I deeply felt that shock and danger was the biggest comedy in life.

After dealing with the above series of frustrations and unhappiness, it is more determined that:

Really nothing in life is plain sailing, the things you expect always linger in the twists and turns, anxiety and fear attack you from time to time.

Mentality this thing is also natural selection, there is the psychological quality to overcome negative emotions, in a long life without fear of ups and downs, a good life.

The education we usually receive is the education of living in anxiety:

Many people tell you that if you don't get into a good school, you will have no choice in life.

If you can't get married over the age of 30, it's hard to find a partner, and loneliness will become your destination.

If you don't make a lot of money, your life will be a complete failure.

Society has defined a variety of success standards for us, it seems that if we do not meet this standard, our lives will be inferior.

However, when we live in this world, we are about to accept all kinds of failures and unpleasant impacts.

I remember that when I graduated from college, several girls in our dorm except me found good jobs. I sent hundreds of resumes, but none of them found a suitable job.

When I was about to graduate, I was almost kicked out of the school, and my livelihood became a problem.

Later, when I went to work in a training company, I was very bitter and tired. it was common to work from nine to ten, and my salary was low. My savings made me have to rent a dark and damp village in the city, often with rats and cockroaches at night.

Looking back on the dark days in the past, it's no big deal.

As the book says, there is a time for everything and a time for everything.

The hardships you eat, the dark times you are wrapped up are regular, you have the courage to endure, you are not afraid of setbacks, and the patience to wait for the clouds to disappear is the most important thing.

My friend chatted with me recently, and she was very anxious when it came to work.

The reason is that her work is within the system, more stable but less dynamic.

She is a passionate, thoughtful and creative person.

But because there are restrictions everywhere in the system, such as leaders are always right, obedience to leaders has a greater chance of promotion, those mavericks are always hit and discriminated against.

A woman like my friend is naturally one of the best hit. So she obviously has excellent ability to work in the unit, but the leader just won't let her break through. She obviously has a lot of ideas, but she just can't boldly put forward them.

If it goes on like this, she feels that her career is about to collapse, so she wants to jump out of the system and do what she wants to do more.

But as soon as her ideas showed a sharp corner, she was suppressed by the opposition of her family.

She feels very distressed, on one side is an iron rice bowl, but very depressed, unhappy, the future at a glance; on the other is an unstable non-institutional career, more creative, but at her own risk.

There is no perfect choice in life. No matter what choice you make, it will not go smoothly all the way.

There are always all kinds of problems waiting for you to solve, even within the system there are worries, and outside the system can not avoid the troubles riddled with holes.

All choices come at an opportunity cost. Anxiety is useless, as long as you have the courage to take the risk of any choice.

I like to read biographies of celebrities and talk to old people. I am full of curiosity about how other people's lives come through.

Once I chatted with my husband's grandmother and learned that she was having a good time when she was young.

In an era when many people were underfed and underdressed, she was not only well-fed and well-dressed, but also admitted to the university, where she met a handsome and capable husband, gave birth to three children after marriage, and lived a life of ample food and clothing.

But the good times didn't last long, and when there was unrest, the whole family had bad luck.

Grandma and grandpa were dragged out to trial every day, and some young generals punched and kicked grandma, and once even kicked her liver.

Grandpa finally couldn't stand the torture, so one day he bought rat poison and came back and said, "Let the whole family die together."

But grandma quickly snatched the rat poison from grandpa's hand and said very strongly, "I believe that evil cannot prevail over good, and life will be better."

After ten years of suffering, the unrest finally came to an end, and their family really slowly got better, and the good days knocked on the door again.

I asked my grandmother: in those bad days, aren't you afraid not to be discouraged?

Grandma said: keep the green mountains, even if there is no firewood. As long as you look far enough, you will not be stopped by the present predicament.

A person's life has to go through a lot of ups and downs, high and low, in order to live a life of ten thousand hurdles, loss and anxiety will not reduce setbacks, there is no other way but to face it calmly.

Mr. Yang Jiang said that there is no simple happiness in the world, happiness is always mixed with troubles and worries, and there is no eternity in the world.

Yes, everything in life comes true. We often have to have fun in the midst of adversity. This is the truth of the world.

I hope that each of us has what Roman Roland calls heroism. After recognizing the truth of life, we still love life. When we are under pressure and difficulties, we still have a pure heart and a strong heart to live.

Life may sometimes be as terrible as a scourge, but we are not afraid, because no matter how many teeth and claws it has, it will come to an end.