The best way to test marriage: sleep

How do you sleep with your partner after marriage?

Do you wait for him to sleep together every night, or do you sleep first, regardless of the husband who plays with his cell phone?

Is it to talk about love with your husband, or talk about the fun of the day, and then go to sleep hugging each other?

Or is it that two people are relatively speechless, have no communication, and sleep separately?

There is a saying in the American TV series Sex and the City: how we perform in bed means how we have lived.

The relationship between husband and wife depends on how you sleep.

Sleep not only determines the degree of harmony of husband and wife, but also an important criterion to test whether the marriage is happy or not.

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According to a study by the University of Herdfordshire, couples sleeping together is a great way to assess the quality of a marriage.

Among the couples who snuggled up to each other while sleeping, 94% felt happy with their marriage, while 68% of those who slept far away were satisfied with their marriage.

From this point of view, couples who sleep closer and have more contact with their skin have higher marital satisfaction and happiness.

On the other hand, if two people even sleep separately, it means that the marriage has turned on the red light and exists in name only.

In the movie "No questions about the West and the East", Xu Bo is often forced by Liu Shufen to marry her.

After their marriage, their life was not happy. Xu Bochang knew everything clearly. He and his wife slept in separate beds, and they used separate bowls and cups for eating and drinking water.

Xu Bochang's practice made Liu Shufen rout again and again, and her grievances were like the river that burst its dike, surging out of a certain gap.

She roared: after all these years of marriage, you have a clear distinction between everything in the family. You are yours and I am mine. You make me feel like I'm the worst person in the world.

Finally, in order to end this marriage full of tragedies, Liu Shufen chose to jump into the well.

I have read such a sentence: he will sleep with you as much as he loves you.

From the dribs and drabs of life, from three meals a day, from daily sleep, we can know how much he loves you.

If a man even wants to sleep in separate beds with you, then this man must not love you very much.

Sometimes, you think it is the bed, but in fact it is the relationship and marriage between two people.

Couples who sleep in separate beds will become less and less intimate with each other, and their feelings will be estranged. It is like a sharp sword, which can poke the heart of emotion and make it fall apart.

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After getting married, the relationship between Wen Wen and her husband became more and more insipid.

When they first got married, before they went to bed every night, they would have a chat, talk about interesting things that happened during the day, discuss their troubles at work, or miss the sweetness and happiness of falling in love.

Although sometimes they quarreled because of disagreements, Wen Wen was happy at that time, because the communication before going to bed narrowed the distance between her and her husband and enhanced their feelings.

As a result, two years later, Wen Wen was used to sleeping together and talking before going to bed, but her husband no longer slept with her at the same time.

Watching TV dramas when watching TV dramas, playing Douyin and playing games when there is no TV dramas, it seems that mobile phones are more attractive and attractive than their wives.

Every time Wen Wen urged him to sleep, he stared at the mobile phone screen and said without looking up:

You go to sleep. I'll wait a minute.

It is obviously a marriage between two people, but it becomes an one-person loneliness.

I don't know since when, Wen Wen feels that her husband is becoming more and more strange, and the relationship between the two is becoming more and more ossified. Apart from the fact that a marriage certificate can prove that they are husband and wife, there is no sweetness that husband and wife should have.

The alienation between adults is silent. Sometimes, you think that when a relationship comes to an end, it must be a bone-breaking and skin-ripping quarrel.

But in fact, destroying a relationship is very simple, intentional neglect and inadvertent indifference are enough to accumulate into fatal scars.

If you go to sleep first, you can easily freeze the two originally hot hearts and build an insurmountable gap between them. In the end, the two people slowly stopped communicating and became strangers.

The person who loves you, is not willing to leave you a cold figure and a cold you to sleep first, he knows your joys and sorrows need someone to accompany, he will sleep with you, always keep pace with you.

Marriage is not afraid of dull, the most afraid of sweeping the snow in front of the door, there is no sharing and communication. No matter how good the relationship is, if one party doesn't know how to cherish it, it will eventually die out.

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Cheng Lisa talked about her and Guo Xiaodong on the program "my wife's Romantic Journey".

She said that Guo Xiaodong was out filming and was not at home at night. She couldn't sleep alone and was very unsure of herself.

Because Cheng Lisa is used to someone on the pillow, turning around with arms, accustomed to the days when Guo Xiaodong went to sleep together, once the other side is not there, it is difficult to sleep.

Love is in it, fascinated in it. Love is a habit, accustomed to two people together, accustomed to someone holding you tightly, accustomed to a touch of kiss, accustomed to a person sleeping with you

Just like my grandfather likes to snore when he sleeps, my grandmother often talks in his sleep, but they never dislike each other.

Later, during the period of Grandpa's death, Grandma said that she often had insomnia because she could not hear her grandfather's grunt and felt very restless and could not sleep at all.

The same ferry can be built in a hundred years and a pillow sleep in a thousand years.

Do not because of a little thing, husband and wife angry quarrel, separate beds, that will easily hurt the feelings of husband and wife, sometimes tolerate each other's small shortcomings, is also a kind of love.

When I was browsing Weibo two days ago, I came across a particularly stirring remark in the heart of a young girl:

Get up early and open the curtains, and the sun shines in. If it can't shine on his sleeping face, then the morning light is not beautiful enough.

The curtains are put down at night, and the stars are locked out. If there is no man in the house who is as gentle as starlight, then midnight is not fascinating.

It is a very happy thing to be able to cuddle and sleep with the one you love. If you can say good night to each other at night and see your loved one by your side at first sight in the morning, you will have a great sense of satisfaction.

One person's sleep is rest, two people's sleep is sleep.

A good relationship between husband and wife must be: I don't want to sleep without you, and I can't sleep without you.

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In his book Random thoughts, Sanmao wrote: love is not easy to Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling) if it is not implemented in real life such as dressing, eating, counting money and sleeping.

Love to us, is a vegetable, a meal, is the relative of the skin.

If husband and wife, one sleeps in the master bedroom, the other sleeps in the study, one goes to bed early, the other is a night owl, sleeping is always out of sync and life is not on the same channel, the relationship between them is a kind of consumption, and happiness will not last long.

The famous actress Zhu Yin once said that if you marry the right person, just look at yourself in the mirror.

If you find that the people inside are getting prettier day by day, you are marrying the right person.

In another way, it can be said that if you meet someone who is willing to sleep with you for the rest of your life, with him, the heart is safe, and the person is happy, then you are married to the right person.

The crowd is surging, it is not easy to meet, and it is a kind of happiness for two people to sleep together.

So please cherish the person around you who has slept with you for a long time.

When you open your eyes in the morning, don't get out of bed in a hurry. You can hug your partner and enjoy the warmth of waking up with your loved one. Before going to bed at night, you should take some time to express your deep feelings to each other.

The rest of life is not long, in the days to come, our marriage must sleep better and better, sleep out the temperature and happiness of life.