First love yourself, then love.

01

I often see messages like this: why am I so kind to him, but he still doesn't cherish it? Why is she still in love with someone else when I am obedient to her?

Dear, if you love hard but do not respond, stop and have a look, we love others so hard, but how long has it been since we have loved ourselves so much?

Love is not brought down in exchange for compromise.

On the contrary, because of your heart and soul, the other person doesn't care more. They know that you love too much, so unscrupulous, so indifferent.

In love, no matter how much you love, don't lose yourself for this feeling. Try to allocate 30% of the energy of loving each other to yourself. Don't regard love as the whole of our life, because once you do, when you lose love, there will be nothing left.

Enrich your life when you are alone, and maintain an independent personality and soul when you have a lover.

This is the best relationship.

02

My friend Xiaobo is also unbelievably infatuated, he is like the one who sang in "waiting for you to finish class" that I got a job, who is very close to your dormitory.

In order to catch up with the girl he likes, he quit his stable job in his hometown and went to work in the city where the girl works.

He treats the girl to a big dinner every weekend and saves money to buy presents for the girl every month. Although he works three jobs at the same time, he still makes himself miserable.

Xiaobo, who used to be so strong and chic in our eyes, is so humble because of a relationship.

However, there are so many crazy lovers in this world who wronged themselves only to pursue the love they want.

We feel sorry for him: why? You see, you have made such a mess of yourself for the sake of your feelings, can you be nice to yourself first? we friends can't see you like this.

I don't know if this way of love is right or wrong, but I just think that this kind of love is too desperate. How can I bear it when I turn my head to think about those who love you?

03

I also have a friend who studied as a nurse. at that time, she went directly to work in the hospital after graduation. later, she secretly went to Beijing to study. She was independent and self-reliant. She had her own ideas and dared to do things.

Just 26 years old, friends are still alone, the elders of the family met during the holidays, always ask if there is a date? Is there anyone you like? Would you like me to introduce you.

The friend said: it is very painstaking to love others. Before that, I have to love myself first. I think only by loving myself can I have the ability to love others.

So I've been making myself better, so why can't I find my partner?

Xiaobo and my friends remind me that Zhihu has such an answer: have you ever thought about it? If all one person has is to fight for another person, what is the point of these efforts without each other?

Everyone has their own life, only they will always be their own protagonist, you are very precious, do not always play a supporting role in other people's plays.

Roland said: if you want someone to love you, the best psychological preparation is not to make yourself love him. You should be strong and independent, fend for yourself, and make yourself the focus of your life.

In short, give yourself enough sources to make yourself happy, and then be prepared to accept or not accept each other's love.

I hope you love yourself more every day in the future.