Introduction: a couple has a hundred days of grace, they only fall in love once in a lifetime, and it is enviable to be able to Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling). In most cases, it is difficult to get what people want. So, when the fate comes to an end, how will you treat the former TA? can lovers still be friends after breaking up?
Sometimes, I ask myself the same question: can I still be friends after breaking up?
I asked a lot of friends, and the final answer was: no.
However, I always believe that it can.
-Wen / Prosperity ends
She is my first love, everyone says that first love is the most unforgettable, I also believe. Indeed, it is difficult for me to forget her. I often think of her when I am free.
Her good, her bad, maybe all of this is touching the scene. When I hear a familiar song, I think of her, because it belongs to us, and occasionally I shed a little tears. maybe it's sad for our fruitless love, maybe it's the only way to vent our inner sadness.
A good friend often comforts me and says, "tell me not to think about her." Because now I have another her around me, I still think that she is sorry for her now, I am very contradictory now, I don't know what to do, I really don't know. But this is beyond my own control. Would she be angry if she knew that I was still thinking about her before? Although she doesn't know, I also feel a little guilty when my friends say this. Maybe now she is better than her in any way, but her position in my heart is irreplaceable.
Who calls people sentimental animals? There are a lot of things can not help, think of our breakup scene, there will inevitably be some sadness. She didn't give me any reason. I thought I did something wrong, but I was sorry that she caused us to break up. I reflected on myself carefully, but she told me that I didn't do anything wrong, that she was sorry to me, and I asked her to give me a reason to break up, even if she made it up. In this way, she said that I was not suitable for her, and she chose to be with me at the beginning, perhaps because she was moved, women were all emotional animals, and if she was kind to her, she thought it was love, so she chose me. However, when we get along slowly, we find that it is not suitable, so we go to the situation of breaking up, and our love comes to an end.
What a magnificent reason, I foolishly believed it. From then on, I was determined not to think about her any more, but I couldn't. We racked our brains to find all the ways to get close to her, but in the end, it was in vain. We just ended it completely. It was like a nightmare when we looked back. Finally, she wrote me a letter saying that we could still be good friends if I wanted to.
Now occasionally when I meet her on the Internet, I am still used to taking the initiative to say hello to her as before, but she pays no attention to her and often finds various excuses to leave, or go offline directly. I know she didn't leave at all, but she just wouldn't face me. I often ask her, is that what you said about being a good friend? Do good friends leave like this without even saying hello to each other? She always said: I don't know.
Again and again to escape, let me discouraged, she always said: do not want me to be hurt, but hurt me. She also said: she has never hurt anyone, this time she hurt me, why on earth? Is it true that you can't be friends after breaking up? Who can tell me?
Perhaps, we used to be good friends of the two of us, accidentally crossed the line to ambiguous, and finally found that can not get along with each other, and is it possible to return to be the original good friend?
My view is that now that we have broken up, there is no need to care too much about whether we can still be friends. Never try to force yourself to be friends with her when you just leave. It is impossible for those who have really loved to return to the pure state of friends. The result of going on like this can only make you more reluctant to stop, but complicate this innocent relationship.
I think, if you really want to be friends with her, first love yourself, let yourself calm down for a while, this time will be very long. When I think of her, I no longer feel heartache, but also let go of this relationship. At this time, it is not too late to be friends, otherwise we can only make more and more mess.
We are too young to change from lover to friend. Years later, I may find how childish what I thought at that time. Love is love, not love is not love. Don't fall in love with each other, hope she will be happy forever.
Everyone will be tired, no one can bear all the grief for me, people always have a period of time to learn to grow up. Forget which philosopher said: if one day, you lose love, please open your hands, the left hand is the past, the right hand is the future, together, the middle is your own present. You exist in opening and closing, so what is sad is that the past is always on one side and the future is on the other. Please do not let the right hand alone, life does not have too much time to waste between opening and closing. When it's over, close it and start a new poem.
This is often the case in the world. I mentioned it at that time, and a few years later, it was just a memory. At this moment, I will treat my current lover better, knowing that I am not the best, because I can no longer give her all my love, but I want to make her feel happy to have me. I can't give her the whole world now, but my world can give it all to her as long as she wants to.
Can we still be friends after we break up? The answer is: no. Because they have been in love, they can not become enemies; because they have hurt each other, they can not become friends, but can only become familiar strangers.
If you can still be friends after breaking up, there are two possibilities: first, when two people are together, the feelings are not very deep and true; second, there must be a person who is still paying silently for each other.
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