From the article, I saw my own shadow at some time. Poverty is not terrible. What is terrible is that poor thinking cannot be changed.
--Accompanying Reader
01
My uncle, who was cleaning the house, wanted to pack garbage, but my grandfather insisted on stopping it.
What was in that bag of junk? Here are the details: an old lock, a broken pair of presbyopic glasses, a few shoelaces Grandpa picked up on the road, and a few waste paper boxes.
Grandpa's theory is: no matter when you have a good day, you can't forget the poor day! Disgraceful waste! He insisted that his uncle put things back.
To this, my uncle asked extremely helplessly: "Dad, I am now desperately trying to earn money, not just to live a 'good day'!" Otherwise, what's the point of earning money? Do you still want to pile up trash like this?"
Indeed, as far as he could see, Grandpa's things were piled up in every corner of the house. It could be a sponge, a pile of old newspapers-all the "treasures" he had picked up.
"What if it's useful?" He always said that.
But the problem is, we all know that these things probably never wait to be "useful," and they will occupy the corner until they are full of dust.
I couldn't help but wonder, why is it that when someone has money, they always live a poor life?
The answer is: you, habit, habit!
02
You're used to, you're afraid of poverty.
Some people say don't let children eat too much.
Because once he's full every day he loses interest in eating. Keep hungry all the time, they will know that the meal will be "no", they do not eat, the next second will be hungry, so they will have a sense of crisis.
Even Mo Yan admitted that his childhood memories and later writing inspiration all came from "eating" and "hunger." Children compete for food, for food.
You feel this very strongly in older people. You will feel that they are stingy, this also reluctant to lose, that also reluctant to lose.
Because they had all experienced the most bitter famine years, their brothers and sisters were short of food and clothing, and they could be happy for a year with a meal of white flour... There was something good just now, and it was unknown who would snatch it the next second.
Such a decade, decades down, let their fragile nerves always trapped in a fear: fear of no money, more afraid to return to the previous life.
So they desperately save, save things, save money, save gold, save houses. Their inner restlessness tells them that they must move forward and not let poverty catch up with them.
They are used to holding money in their hands and feel that this is more reassuring than anything else.
I am afraid that if I am not careful, there will be a disease and a disaster, an injection and a medicine, and I will return to before liberation.
He Shen, a big corrupt official in those years, was rich enough to rival the enemy. When Emperor Jiaqing raided his house, he found several rooms full of gold, silver, jewelry, antique calligraphy and painting, which was equivalent to 15 years 'silver collected by the royal treasury, but he only ate porridge at his house.
Except for himself, his wife and the housekeeper, all the other servants wore coarse cloth, and even the money for buying vegetables was calculated and weighed out--that was really poor and afraid.
03
One day God met a beggar who wanted to change his fate. So he asked the beggar,"If I gave you a thousand dollars now, what would you do?"
The beggar thought for a moment and said,"I want a mobile phone."
"Why?"
"This way, it's easier for others to tell me where to beg!"
God thought it might be too little money, so he said,"What if I gave you 100,000?"
The beggar said,"Great! I want to buy a car."
"Why?" God asked.
"So, wherever it's easy to beg, I can drive there right away."
God asks,"Well, what if I gave you a hundred million?"
Beggar eyes out of the light: "Great, I want to buy the most prosperous place in this city."
"Then what are you going to do next?" God asked.
"Drive the other beggars away. No one will fight for my territory again!" The beggar answered.
Such jokes are funny and sad.
Perhaps the most sympathetic are these people. It's not that you don't have money, but you make yourself poor when you're clearly living a good life.
The company hired a new female intern. She's nice. We talk a lot. One day, the supervisor was angry because there was a big meeting. She was the only one who didn't wear a black suit.
The supervisor asked her what was going on, and she answered quite frankly: "No money to buy" three words almost made the supervisor angry.
In fact, she usually wore old clothes and did not wear makeup. Sometimes, the color matching made people feel strange. When asked, it was not that there was no money at home. Her mother always remitted it to her, but it was all in her passbook. Her mother bought clothes and mailed them to her.
Besides her work, she usually read novels and eat snacks. She didn't want to spend time choosing clothes or buying magazines to look at color combinations.
It's not hard to have money, but it's hard to tear down the walls of thought. Spirit is a beggar, money can only beg.
People change their patterns every year for travel, training, and maintenance, but you are reluctant to give yourself money to learn a specialty, learn English to cook a meal, and have a small hobby to edify your sentiment.
People have seen all the prosperity in the world, and you still think you are at home.
This kind of life is bean curd dregs project, spent money, but still serious quality disability.
04
When I have money.
"When I make enough money, I'll travel around the world."
"When I earn enough money, I'll enjoy the prosperity."
There must be someone close to you who wishes that.
My sisters are excellent at English. After a volunteer run around Cambodia, my friends are still watching soap operas at home. "Wait until I have the money before I go with you!" Someone replied to her on WeChat. The problem is that the people who told her these things never moved. They waited all their lives because there was never enough money.
It's not enough.
Two days ago, the person who replied to her was still lamenting that he had cut off his hand on Double Eleven. Those people have jobs, and many even have cars and houses, but they have no money to travel.
To put it bluntly, it is "no money" that fulfills our "not enough" and gives us an excuse to pretend to be victims without effort, satisfaction and no way.
Where you want to go, you just have to take it step by step.
Be nice to yourself.
Those who love themselves truly love life.
When you put on a beautiful makeup, you can smile and accept all the services and invitations in the mall, because you deserve it;
When you've had a hard day, do yoga, put on some music, give yourself a hot bath, and take a break from reading and grading to keep yourself relaxed.
When you order a bouquet of flowers in a matching vase, there is a little bit of decoration, and make a little different every day, the day will be a little more soft.
As the old urchin Cai Lan said: "Go chess, plant flowers, fish, do not spend too much money, buy something pleasing to the eye, plaything to raise ambition; eat something delicious, play something fun, otherwise I am sorry for myself."
Life is too short to live willfully.
So, to those who warned me,"Don't forget the hard days," I just want to reply,"I only want to live the good days, let others live the hard days!"
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