The greatest absurdity of a man is to cling to bad things.

01

There is a colleague, M, whose EQ is very low, but he can't speak without thinking.

Once several female colleagues attended the event together and took a group photo. M looked at it and said blankly, "Oh Cheng Cheng, you see, you are the darkest and the shortest."

Cheng Cheng Qi, ah, for a long time can not recover, do not want to talk to her.

M is still unknown, so he told people everywhere that Cheng Cheng was very cold and difficult to get close to.

Cheng Cheng became even angrier and didn't want to talk to her. But he was afraid that she would go out again and talk nonsense and ruin her reputation.

When we started talking yesterday, Cheng Cheng said that I was really bored to death. I met this kind of person, and I felt sick when I saw her in the office this year.

I said, why are you so strong? it's so unnecessary.

Cheng Cheng said he was angry.

I said you were angry at her at that time. She said you were black, you said you basked in the sun in your house? Or I hate you ugly, and we happen to be good friends. When there is revenge, let it go once and for all.

Cheng Cheng said, but there was no report at that time.

I said it would also let it go completely, and it would be too bad to affect the mood for a year because of this.

How short a person's life is, you have to be precious every day, and you can't waste it on bad people.

Not to mention the total entanglement of bad people, after a long time, you will be rotten.

If something wastes your life and destroys yourself, why do you bother to do it?

Might as well put it down.

02

There is a piece of news these days, and it is also a bad thing:

There is a couple in Xifeng County, Guiyang, who have been divorced for 14 years.

Not long ago, when the man remarried, the woman was angry and jealous when she found her ex-husband's wedding photo. She posted pictures of funeral items such as wreaths and urns from the Internet, together with her ex-husband's wedding photo, and sent them to him on his wedding day.

The ex-husband was so angry that he stopped his ex-wife on the road three days later and beat her in hospital for 19 days, which cost more than 10,000.

The ex-husband paid $4,000 for medical expenses and was detained for three days.

I've been divorced for 14 years. What a grudge.

Neither of you is good at it. The man does not say, the woman's mentality is very problematic.

I guess she hasn't let go of her ex-husband for 14 years, has she? Are you having a very bad time, too?

But is a dead marriage worth another 14 years to be buried with you?

If you walk away with your hair swinging your hair on the second day of divorce, living a wonderful life alone, or finding someone to live a wonderful life, then 14 years later, your life must be different.

It's a pity that people are too easily controlled by emotions.

Often the truth is clear, but as soon as the mood comes up, there is no distinction between black and white and ungrateful.

If a man lost 100 yuan, he went crazy and had to spend 500 yuan to take a taxi to find it, but he didn't get it back.

You must think ta is stupid.

But you may actually be doing something like this:

Others casually said something unpleasant, but ta didn't notice it at all, but you were sad for more than half a year.

Unkind people have done unkind things to you, and you spend a lot of energy to fight at all costs.

A relationship, you know that there can be no good results, but still endless entanglement, refused to get out.

If a marriage or relationship is broken, why do you keep blindly investing your energy and wasting your life on it?

If a person wants to live well, he must maintain basic rationality. Once he knows that a thing cannot end well, he should convince himself decisively that it is rotten and that is it.

Just like an apple, if you find that it is rotten, stop cutting, cutting, angry, cursing, and constantly wrestling with it.

Throwing away bad things is the best thing. There is nothing to be reconciled to, nothing to let go.

Man is an energy body. Where your attention is, that's where the energy is, where the energy is, where the achievement is.

Focus on business, and your life will be healthy and positive.

Focus on bad things, you will slowly become a bad person, your life will become bad.

03

One of my readers, who has been divorced for many years, still resents his ex-husband, can't figure it out, can't let it go, and has a bad life.

She said: moon, who doesn't have a knife hanging in his heart?

I said, my dear, why let a knife hang in my heart? Wouldn't it be better to put it away?

Then I told her the story of my friend CC.

CC had a chance to be promoted more than a decade ago. But one of her female colleagues cheated on her and spread rumors that CC was having an affair with a director of the company.

As a result, the big leader listened to the letter and let CC win the promotion with certainty.

CC was furious. But this kind of thing can not be explained clearly, so we can only admit bad luck.

No, there is reincarnation in the way of Heaven. Last year, the colleague who spread rumors changed jobs, and the boss of the new company happened to be a friend of CC. Knowing that CC had been with that colleague, he came to find out about the situation.

CC was also impolite and counted the other side's bad deeds, which directly led to the woman's failure to pass the probation period.

CC told me about it later, and I was very happy.

I mean, you hated her all these years?

What did she say? I forgot long ago. If my friend hadn't asked, I wouldn't remember such a bad guy at all. But since it's in my hands, I can't let her go.

Well, I think it's the right way: you suck, I won't mess with you. But if I can give it back to you one day, I won't be too polite.

I didn't rest assured that I didn't forgive you, but I didn't want to punish myself with your fault.

Just like Carina Lau.

When she was popular, she was kidnapped, took nude photos, and then was published by the unscrupulous media.

This is an unimaginable humiliation and pressure on a woman whose life was almost ruined here.

But 20 years later, she said: I forgive all those people.

I think her forgiveness is not forgiving each other, but letting go of herself.

She has paid too much for this, and if she hates and entangles for the rest of her life, the loss will outweigh the gain. We might as well let those losers and all that crap get out of here and leave none of them.

This kind of letting go is really great wisdom and great pattern.

04

The documentary "in Life" records the last days of several old people in a hospice hospital in Shanghai.

Most of the people who come here are patients with advanced cancer, and their life balance is generally no more than three months.

Uncle Chen, he could still walk two steps when he came, but he was soon weak and completely paralyzed.

He hoped he could still stand up, but the doctor said it was impossible.

Later, he often suffered too much pain at night, and his whole wish was: don't hurt, you can move.

Aunt Lu, with advanced breast cancer, has an expected life span of one month. She originally lived with her daughter. She came to this hospital because she didn't want to die at her daughter's house. She knew very well that she had come to die.

When you see these old people, you will understand what is meant by dying years.

The professor at the Institute of Foreign languages had incontinence and was a mess.

When she was young, she liked to talk about the beautiful aunt who loved to laugh, shaved her head and gave up resistance.

They picked up their last mental portraits, made wills, and recalled the past indifferently. Then in the pain and chaos, waiting for the oil to run out of light finally.

This documentary makes people feel very uncomfortable.

What is even more painful and has to be accepted is that all lives inevitably come to such a miserable situation.

I once read a hypothetical question:

Imagine it's 2068, and you're in your eighties and nineties, with problems in all parts of your body, paralyzed in bed.

You look at the scenery out of the window, but you can no longer walk under the tree.

You think of the ideals you had when you were young, but now they are long gone.

You keep flashing in your head the people you've met in your life, the ones you've loved, the ones you hated, and the ones you missed.

You find that time becomes unbearable. I don't know what's the point of dragging such a body for the rest of my life.

You pray to the ceiling and say, "Oh, my God, help me. I'm willing to give everything to get back my young body."

A miracle happened!

Biu, you are back to 2018 today, you are reading this passage.

That's right, you're back!

So, tell me, how do you want to live this time?

Are you still willing to spend a year obsessing over a sentence from a colleague?

Are you still willing to spend 14 years fighting with your ex-husband?

Are you still willing to waste a second in meaningless crap?

05

Get out of the garbage.

Go in the direction of your dreams and live the life you love.

The meaning of life is to chase good things one after another, not to be exhausted in the entanglement with demons and ghosts.

The rest of your life is not long, don't waste your time in a mud pit.

Living is tired, don't carry a pile of rubbish on your body.

It is the greatest absurdity of a man to cling to bad things.

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