Can children be equal in gender by their mother's surname?

In the traditional Chinese concept, only men can inherit the surname "continuing incense". Children's surname after their father's surname has become a kind of traditional culture and custom to a certain extent. However, in recent years, there have been calls for "surname reform" from time to time. Changfeng County, Anhui Province, launched a pilot "surname reform", and the son received a prize of thousands of yuan after his mother's surname. Recently, a young writer claimed that children should take their mother's surname in order to break the feudal culture. This idea stirred up a thousand waves and sparked a heated discussion.

Should the child take the father's surname or the mother's surname? China's Marriage Law stipulates that children can take their father's surname and their mother's surname. In other words, it is only a convention or tradition for many years for a child to take his father's surname, not as prescribed by law.

We have to admit that although our country now advocates equality between men and women, it is still unusual, especially in rural areas, where families who give birth to two girls are often looked down upon. In other words, with the development of the 21st century, the difference between men and women is still a dominant topic in the society. To call on children not to follow their father's surname and follow their mother's surname is to take action to attach importance to equality between men and women, because women have always been in a weak position on the issue of whose surname they take, and taking their mother's surname is a kind of weak compensation for equality between men and women.

Some people regard the relationship between individual and society as a drop of water and a river: if a drop of water is taken out of the river at will, who can tell which part of the water it comes from? Which part of the water will it spread downstream in the future? In fact, each of us inherits the lineage of almost all surnames, and in the long river of history, the value of using surnames to mark certain water droplets is indeed limited.

The author thinks that to some extent, newborns with mother's surname can slowly dilute the consciousness of father's surname and the consciousness of passing down the family line, but I think it is a bit critical to promote gender equality, and I don't see any practical effect, because gender equality is reflected in many aspects, especially in education and employment. I'm afraid it's still quite difficult to achieve equality between men and women, in other words. Many people have a deep-rooted preference for boys over daughters, and it is obviously self-deceiving and wishful thinking that children declare gender equality in a high profile just because their children follow their mother's surname.

It used to be a great pleasure to have children at home. Nowadays, we often see the news of divorce wars caused by children's surnames. In this war, it is obvious that there is no real winner, and everyone is injured, among them, children are likely to be hurt the most.

In fact, the dispute over the surname of the child is totally unnecessary. Do not fight for the surname of the child. The best solution to the breakdown of the family is for the husband and wife to reach an agreement and convene the elders of both sides to negotiate a solution. Do not destroy a good family because of these frictions. why not be more understanding and tolerant in both families?

Author: the stream flows into my heart.