How to become a person with a strong heart?

The weak are generally as irritable as tigers and are prone to rage. The strong are usually as calm as water and are relatively peaceful. A person who is not strong in heart is naturally not calm enough. People who are not at peace of mind are full of winds and waves. No matter how small it is, it will be magnified infinitely. A person who is not strong in heart will always lack sense of security in his heart.

How to become a person with a strong heart? Not strong enough means that it is easy to be influenced by the outside world, which is usually shown as either paying special attention to other people's opinions or living in the eyes and tongues of others. As a result, he loses his ability to judge independently and becomes wavering and restless.

To be a strong person, you need to have at least the following six traits: 1) a high degree of self-discipline and self-blackness; 2) you must experience despair; 3) develop the ability to be alone; 4) think without limits; 5) you need a belief; 6) BEYOURSELF (be yourself).

one. Highly self-discipline and self-blackness

Why not say confident? People who are not confident are generally vulnerable inside. A confident person, full of confidence in himself, often do things with positive strength, and always full of passion. All blind self-confidence, and fasting self-confidence, are self-righteous. You should have real talent and learning in your heart, even if you are constantly trying and making mistakes, but you can eventually reach the peak of the climb.

Where does people's self-confidence come from? And how to cultivate your self-confidence? A high degree of self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is to manage yourself and restrain yourself. This is a very important ability. Only by learning to restrain yourself and control your life with a strict schedule can you constantly hone your self-confidence in this kind of self-discipline. Self-confidence also represents the ability to control things, even the most basic time can not control, how to talk about self-confidence?

In addition to self-discipline, the ability to hack is also very important. The world is so big that there are all kinds of birds. When you make some achievements one day, many people you know or don't know will be talking about right and wrong behind your back. From initial complaints to out-of-context judgments and even boring hacking.

To be black is to laugh at yourself and to have a dark sense of humor. Self-blackness is not only a way of communication, but also a realm, but also a kind of alternative self-cultivation. To be black is not to wait for someone to talk about you, but to have the ability from beginning to end. You must see through those boring and vulgar people who are better at hacking themselves than they are. When they know they are boring, they will walk out in shame.

two. Must experience despair.

Experiencing despair means that you have passed through this period of time. Just because you haven't been desperate doesn't mean you're not strong, but you've never experienced a desperate person to be strong. A life without despair is an imperfect life. Despair can be emotion, career, or loneliness that you can't face.

"must" is a prefix, an important state. "must" is not an active choice, but a good psychological preparation. When despair comes, accept it without fear, even if it is extremely painful and even lose yourself. Looking for hope in despair is a life worth experiencing.

A strong man is not what he conquers, but what he can bear. Some things, only experienced, can understand the truth, and understand the true meaning of life. Despair is not terrible, what is terrible is the loss of courage and passion. Experience despair, but don't be swallowed up by it. On the contrary, you have to overcome it, just as you overcome the darkness and welcome the light.

three. Cultivate the ability to be alone

Loneliness and solitude are not the same thing, they are two different things, and they are often confused. People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but ignore that solitude is also a kind of ability, and in a certain sense, it is a more important ability than communication. If not being good at communication is a weakness of character, then being intolerant of loneliness is simply a defect of the soul.

Be able to endure loneliness and not drift with the current. Loneliness is a person's carnival, carnival is a group of people's loneliness. The so-called maturity is that the older you are, the more you can learn to adapt to everything by yourself. In your time alone, find what you really love and develop your own independent judgment.

Only when people learn to love themselves first can they have the ability to love others. If you don't learn to talk to yourself, it will be more difficult to communicate with others. The more people can be alone, the more they can face and understand difficulties, and the more they can get along with others. Because you can think of others instantly and put yourself in each other's shoes.

four. Unlimited thinking

Your vision is farther than others, and your mind is broader than others. Life calculated every day, the future will be calculated by life sooner or later. In addition, he also lives in a variety of narrow-minded and small patterns.

Life is like driving a car. When you are 30 yards faster than others, you experience feelings that others cannot perceive. Life is like flying an airplane. When you are 30000 feet taller than others, your vision is naturally different from that of others. It means that when you are pursuing higher and farther beauty, you don't have to care about the short-sighted eyes of others. Everything is natural and light, and it will no longer be affected.

If you are broad, you will not be bound by parochialism. After freedom, it will not be restricted by formalism.

five. You need a faith.

People are so limited that no matter what you believe in, you must always have a belief, otherwise it is no different from animals.

In this day and age, almost everyone has beliefs, but their beliefs are different. Some believe in power, some believe in money, some believe in themselves, some believe in love, some believe in happiness, some believe in food, some believe in parties, some believe in the system, some believe in atheism, some believe in God, some believe in polytheism, some believe in Christ.

No matter what kind of belief, it is worthy of respect, and any belief needs to be deeply understood and believed before it can be called faith. Any kind of belief, if it is a muddle-headed belief, is not a belief, but belongs to superstition, all religious beliefs, including Christianity.

There is a distance between heaven and earth between wisdom and truth. Learn to crave truth more than wisdom. Truth can make people more intelligent to look at all things in the world, tolerant attitude in the face of complex interpersonal relationships, incomparably firm belief to run the road of life, calmly face the darkness of human nature and the tragedies of the world.

six. BEYOURSELF (be yourself)

JUSTBEYOURSELF . Don't try to please everyone. You can't do it now and you can't do it in the future.

People can't do everything. Everyone should have the people they care about most, who are the most precious wealth in your life. If they have misunderstandings or questions about what you have done, it is worth your time to respond and explain.

The following are the three groups that individuals care about most, for reference only: 1, family (relatives are not included, see only once a year, do not know your life position); 2, life bosom friend (a few true friends, know everything); 3, pastor or mentor (spiritual mentor, and senior leaders in the workplace).

Their comments / opinions / suggestions will be listened carefully. If there is a lack of understanding, there will be a full explanation and response. Only the people who really care about you have a relatively comprehensive understanding of you, and most of the others are one-sided. There is no special intersection in life, there are only hearsay or just a few acquaintances.

You don't have to respond to familiar strangers, they don't really care about you, they're just curious about the baby. Time is so precious that there is no time to think about it, nor does it fall within the scope of the obligation to explain. Your life does not need to live in the words of others, there are many more important things to do.

People who are strong in their hearts seldom care about the opinions of others, including familiar strangers. Just as positive people seldom pay attention to negative messages, even if they see them, they are automatically blocked or digested instantly. They are well aware of their position and pursuit.

If you encounter obstacles, you will try every means to eradicate them. When you encounter setbacks, you don't give up easily. If you overcome difficulties, you will have strength. If you solve the problem, you will have wisdom. Out of the darkness, there is hope. For them, these are just the only way of life.

People who are really strong in heart must have a calm heart, a gentle heart and a wise mind. Must have experienced high winds and torrential rain, experienced high mountains and low valleys, and seen all kinds of life. I wish we could be strong and courageous with wisdom on the road of life, no matter what the circumstances, and become strong people in our hearts.

Source of the article / Mr. Daniel