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The appearance of a person is divided into body appearance and soul.

The beauty of the facial features is like a flower blooming in the sun, direct, while the beauty of the spirit is like a dark fragrance, which needs to be relied on and can be presented only by self-cultivation.

Appearance can be cosmetic, but can not hide the true color; temperament can be shaped, but can not be separated from nature.

The heart has the realm line is upright, the belly has the poetry book spirit from China.

Mental appearance is an invisible ability, which determines a person's spiritual strength.

Being able to speak is a discipline.

Propriety is a kind of self-cultivation.

If you speak, you will know; if you speak silently, you will know.

Language can best expose a person, the right time to speak is wisdom, the right silence is also a kind of wisdom.

Know how to speak, know when to speak, know not to talk nonsense, is a great soft power.

Zi Jing asked Mozi: is it good to talk more?

Mozi replied:

Flies and frogs bark day and night, making their mouths dry, but no one listens to it.

But look at that rooster, crowing on time at dawn, the world shakes, and people get up early.

What's the advantage of talking more? The important thing is to speak at the right time.

We often rate a person with a high emotional quotient and a good talker, in fact, it is precisely because he knows how to say the right words at the right time, not to embarrass others, but also to appear generous and decent.

The more you talk, the happier others will be, and the happier they will be, the more they will like you; the more they like you, the more help you will get, and the happier you will be.

Life is made up of your words and deeds. How you speak, determines who you are, and even determines whether you are good or not.

Mouth is the door to misfortune and happiness, and it is wise to know how to be cautious in words and deeds and take care of the feelings of others.

It's really fair to judge people by their appearance.

I have seen such a joke in moments:

Character is written on the lips, happiness is exposed in the corner of the eye. Standing posture can see talent demeanor, gait can see self-cognition.

There is a recent state of mind in the expression, and there are past years between the eyebrows.

The clothes are aesthetic and the hairstyle is individual. Professional caretaker, self-cultivation depends on feet.

A series of ideas seem absolute, but they also make sense.

When you reach a certain age, your image will show you the road you have traveled, the books you have read, the people you have loved, the things you have experienced, the tears you have cried and the sweat you have shed.

In this world, there is always someone who is good-looking and someone is getting better and better. Why can't it be you?

Good-looking, not only superficial beauty, but also dignified, humble, elegant speech all the amazing, all from long-term preparation.

Once upon a time, there was a craftsman who was skilled and many people came to buy sculptures.

But unlike others, he likes to sculpture demons and ghosts.

One day, when he looked in the mirror, he found that his appearance had become very ugly: it was not that his facial features had changed, but that his whole face was ferocious, ugly and strange.

Later, he went to a temple and asked the abbot for help. The abbot said, "I can treat you, but you must first help me carve 100 Quan yin statues."

As a result, craftsmen began to constantly study the expression, virtue and expression of Quan Yin, sometimes even to the level of selflessness.

Six months later, when he carved the Quan Yin image of kindness, compassion and tolerance, he hurried to the temple to find the abbot and said to the abbot, "Please help me cure my illness."

The abbot said nothing, took out the mirror from behind, smiled and said, "your illness is over."

Only then did he find that his appearance had become upright and dignified.

If a person is enthusiastic and always smiles, when he is old, the lines on his face are kind.

If a person does not smile for a long time, his facial expression is rigid, the older he is, the more terrible he looks, and the less affinity he has.

This is the so-called phase from the heart.

By the age of 40, you must have a speech, behavior and mental outlook commensurate with your age, identity and social status.

Japanese writer Koichi Otaka said: a person's face is a resume.

It is true that your inner quality and self-cultivation determine your external image and appearance.

What you said, what you did, what you learned and what you learned in the first half of your life are virtually changing what you look like in the second half of your life.

Kind-hearted people have nothing to lose.

The six Zutan Sutra says: all Fukuda is inseparable from the heart. Sow the seeds of kindness in your heart, and one day, it will blossom and bear fruit.

Zengzi once said: people are good and good, although the good fortune has not yet come, the misfortune is far away.

This is a remote mountain village school, the food in the canteen is terrible, either cabbage or radish cabbage, and the female teacher is very weak, so she often goes to a small mountain village next to the school to buy eggs.

The seller was an old lady in her twenties, and she called for a price, and the female teacher set 50 cents each. in fact, the female teacher secretly raised the price by 5 cents, and the female teacher's hometown eggs were as much as 45 cents.

The female teacher saw that the old man was pitiful and had no children and no daughters, so she only relied on a few chickens to support herself, so she gave five cents more for each egg. The old lady was pitiful. The female teacher should be a small benefactor.

The strange thing is that the old lady has neither bargaining nor bargaining, so the deal is settled.

After buying it for a period of time, the female teacher felt that the old lady was really pitiful, so she unilaterally raised the price by 5 cents and an egg by 55 cents.

This time the old lady spoke up and refused to raise the price, but the female teacher insisted on raising the price unilaterally. After a long stalemate, the old lady finally accepted it.

That day, the female teacher still went to the old lady to buy eggs when she ran into an egg dealer bargaining with the old lady.

The egg seller offered 60 cents each to take away all the eggs, but the old lady refused.

The egg dealer said that the price was high enough. It's the same price in the mountains.

The old lady said, not because of this price, but because these eggs have to be sold to the thin teacher. People come so far to teach us, and they are so thin. I hope she will get fat and stay in this primary school for a long time. The children need her.

The female teacher immediately froze. She thought she was a benefactor, but unexpectedly the real benefactor was the old lady.

What you do to others is what you do to yourself. So, whatever you want for yourself, you must first let others get it.

Life is an echo. If you give your kindness to others, you will eventually reap kindness from others. No matter who you are good to, you are good to yourself in the long run.

Always kind, only ask the heart, do not ask the gains and losses, all the way fragrance, has followed behind you.

Know the world but not the world

The calendar is smooth and naive.

There is a saying in Caigen Tan: snobbish, those who are not near are clean, and those who are near are especially clean.

In this complicated society, if we want to survive, we must deal with people and things. in this process, we should keep our true self while grasping the yardstick, that is, the so-called knowing the world rather than being sophisticated.

This is not easy to do, but the result of going through thousands of mountains and rivers to understand and practice.

When Su Shi was down and out at the age of 63, he wrote such a poem:

There was a sick man on the silent east slope, and the white beard was full of frosty wind. Children mistakenly like Zhu Yan, who knows it is wine red when he smiles.

First of all, he said that he was old, and then teased by children. The flush after drinking was mistaken for a ruddy face, and self-mockery was used to solve the desolate frustration of the evening scene.

A person is not sophisticated, easy to sink in adversity, but also easy to treat others, while experienced but not sophisticated people, have seen life fierce, still warm heart.

Zhou Guoping said in "Soul can only Walk alone":

The so-called maturity of many people is just worn away by customs and becomes sophisticated and practical.

It is not maturity, but the premature senescence of spirit and the demise of personality.

True maturity should be the formation of unique personality, true self-discovery, spiritual results and harvest.

Make people comfortable, is a kind of top charm.

"Cai Gentan": let one step higher in the world, retrogression is the progress of Zhang Ben; treat others leniency is a blessing, benefit others and self-interest foundation.

To be a man and do things, with the attitude of giving way to everything, is the wise person, because giving way to one step is tantamount to leaving room for further progress in the future.

Blessed people are those who treat others with leniency, because giving convenience to others is the basis for leaving convenience for themselves in the future.

The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates was brilliant and wise, but when people praised his knowledge, he said modestly: the only thing I know is my ignorance.

Mark Twain, a famous writer, once went to a small town. Before leaving, he was told that the mosquitoes there were particularly fierce.

When he arrived, just as he was checking in at the hotel, a mosquito hovered in front of Mark Twain, which embarrassed the staff.

Mark Twain said nonchalantly: your mosquito is so much smarter than the legendary mosquito that it will watch my room number in advance so that it can visit and have a good meal at night.

The waiter couldn't help laughing at the remark.

As a result, Mark Twain slept soundly that night.

It turned out that all the staff of the hotel went out that night to ward off mosquitoes so that the popular writer would not be bitten by mosquitoes.

Is there such a person around you who may not be amazing or outstanding, but they have a different charm in the invisible that makes you want to get close to them, let down your guard, and confide your secrets with them?

A gentleman is like a jade, and a comfortable person is like a warm and moist jade.

Being with such a person is like listening to a soothing music, tasting a cup of mellow hot tea, watching a flower bloom quietly, and making time as tranquil and pure as running water.

Audrey Hepburn is known as a goddess, not only because of her beauty, but also because of her academic qualifications, which can not be remembered by people all over the world.

But she spent her whole life interpreting the word spiritual appearance, and she said in her last words:

If you want beautiful lips, speak kind words

If you want lovely eyes, you must see the good of others.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry

For beautiful hair, a child's fingers pass through it every day.

For graceful posture, remember that you are not the only pedestrian when walking.

This is the best interpretation of spiritual appearance.

A person's real capital is not beauty, nor money, nor learning, but a spiritual appearance that will not disappear with time.