Woman, please live for yourself.

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Woman, who on earth do you live for in this life?

When we were young, we lived for our parents. We thought that to be a good child and study hard was the meaning of survival.

When we are young and live for work, we think that working hard in our positions and getting a promotion and a raise is the meaning of survival.

When we get married and live for our loved ones, we think that selflessly giving everything to our husbands and following virtue is the meaning of life.

When we have children, we live for our children. We think that bringing up our children and giving everything we have is the meaning of survival.

But in the end, the husband may leave us before us, the children will spread their wings and fly away from us, there are younger faces on the job, and we seem to be forgotten by the whole world.

At this time, suddenly look back and ask yourself, woman, can you live for yourself?

Life is an one-time gift for everyone, so please be kind to yourself.

02

In the entertainment industry, she has always envied Faye Wong's life. It is not the moment when she shines brightly on the stage, but the moment when she can clearly choose her own life path in life.

Many people will say, how can they have the talent like Faye Wong to really do what they like. In fact, Wang Fei has today, in addition to talent, there is also a very important point: she knows what she wants and knows how to work hard to get it.

At that time, she gave up the admission notice of Xiamen University and went to Hong Kong to sing.

If you were an ordinary person, maybe this step would be stuck, because you don't have the courage to burn your bridges.

However, after going to Hong Kong to sing songs, Faye Wong soon realized that this was not what she wanted. The clothes she wore and what she said on stage were decided by others, which was not her at all.

So she went to New York to study music, and when she came back, she studied with various teachers to broaden her range and practice her singing skills.

Being able to detect the problem in time and strive to seek changes and breakthroughs is the argument that Faye Wong lives for herself, and it is also the difference between her and others.

Her ability to manage her life well depends not only on her good voice, but also on her ability to make choices.

The same is true in marriage. I like Dou Wei to be together even if I give up my job. Even if I live in a courtyard in Beijing, I can get up early in the morning and pour my spittoon.

No longer in love, he let go. When asked by the media what kind of father to find for Dou Jingtong, he was able to say clearly and rationally: Dou Jingtong has his own father, and I am looking for my own life partner.

Later, she married Li Yapeng and then divorced, which also proved that her children were not affected at all and still lived a sunny life.

On the other hand, she has always made a choice that is loyal to her heart, neither trapped by her career nor bound by marriage.

She knows that she will always live for herself.

03

None of us want to be a pawn. Fate is controlled by others, and it is not up to us to come and go.

Everyone goes from life to death, and everyone's life is extremely precious. If you don't live for yourself, try to live for others, and find sustenance and sense of existence in others, you will eventually be disappointed.

Chaplin wrote himself a poem on his 70th birthday in which he wrote: when I really began to love myself, I realized that all the pain and emotional suffering just remind me: to live, don't go against your heart.

I hope every woman can live for herself and not go against her heart.