High-level people all know these four tricks.

According to the moral Classic: square but not cut, cheap but not arrogant, straight but not wanton, light but not shining.

It means that high-level people behave: square but not hurtful, sharp but not harmful, straightforward but not presumptuous, bright but not dazzling.

Square without cutting

Be upright, but don't cut others.

Everyone has his own bottom line and his own principles, and of course we should abide by them.

But don't embarrass others because of your own principles.

Zeng Guofan, as the governor of the Hunan Army, was an honest and honest official.

The governor of Luzhou sent people to send a large number of daily necessities. Zeng Guofan was very moved, but in the end, he only received seven straw mats.

His general sent a lot of jewels, but he only received one of the hats and sent the rest back.

When someone gave him a good book, he returned a gift of equal value to others according to the market price.

It's neither embarrassing nor violating your own principles.

Most of the exchanges between people are face-saving exchanges, taking care of the face of others, in fact, it is also to leave a step for themselves, once frozen is not good for anyone.

So we often say: people want inner and outer circles. You can't break through the basic bottom line, but don't be self-centered and think of others when dealing with others.

incorrupt and generous

Have a personality so as not to hinder others.

Many people are flaunting personality, but the premise of personality is that you don't influence others because of your personality.

If it affects others, it is not personality, but diaphragm response.

You can sing and dance if you like, but it's wrong to dance with the horn sounding in the middle of the night.

To have personality is everyone's freedom, but freedom is not to do whatever you want.

If you always cut others when you are free, it is not freedom, but impudence.

Yan Fu translated the title of the book into "on the Rights of the masses" when translating on Freedom.

It means that in life, in front of others, it is necessary to draw a clear line between private life and public life.

Confucius said: do not do to others what you do not want. Don't impose on others what you don't want.

Mr. Zhou Guoping said: do not do to others what you want. Don't impose on others what you like, because others may not like it.

Therefore, high-level people have a sense of alienation, which is not unenthusiastic, but they know how to maintain the boundaries between people.

Straight but not presumptuous

Speak frankly but not presumptuously.

A lot of people talk but their brains, and it's easy to hurt people when they say it.

If something goes wrong afterwards, I often apologize and say, "I am not targeting anyone, or I am speaking bluntly."

Such people do not speak bluntly, but have low EQ.

There are many ways for a person to remain sincere, but you can't rely on yourself to hurt others wantonly in words.

At a banquet, Xiao Li's pants were unzipped, and his colleague Xiao Wang said it in front of a table of people, which embarrassed Xiao Li and could not come down in front of many colleagues.

Girls' party, just met and asked others if they had cut their eyelids, others were embarrassed to answer, but also said directly: micro-plastic surgery is so popular now, what is there to be embarrassed about?

Speaking bluntly does not mean talking about people's shortcomings and revealing scars in public. Such people actually attract people's attention and grandstanding, rather than really care about others.

When the school organized a trip, a classmate threw rubbish casually. The health committee of the same class did not point it out face to face, but silently cleaned up the rubbish after the students left and told the classmate.

Of course, you can speak bluntly, but you can't hurt others under the guise of directness, otherwise it is either straightforward or EQ is low.

Shine without shining

Shine with honor, but don't be too dazzling.

He who dares to kill, he who is too brave always dies halfway.

The rafters that stand out are rotten first, and it's not good to be too much in the limelight.

If you have a lot of honors on you, don't be stingy, but know how to share them with the people around you.

When Zeng Guofan led his troops, he often recommended his subordinates to the imperial court.

Want money to give money, want officials to give officials, reap a large number of followers.

After the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom was pacified, he took the initiative to abolish the Hunan army, reduced his authority and prestige, and even made his merits and demerits mixed.

Too much prosperity leads to decline, as it has been since ancient times.

The light that shines too much will be envied by others, and it will be hated by others to cover up the light of others.

The person who knows how to restrain the edge of the still water is the high realm.

Su Shi's Wutai poem case was framed, and Su Zhe made it clear that Su Shi was too famous for his crime.

If you already have too much praise, you might as well share some of it and learn to praise others.