It is better to please others than to please yourself: if you bloom, the breeze will come

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Do not chase a horse, you use the time to chase horses to plant grass, wait for spring flowers, can attract a group of horses for you to choose.

Do not deliberately curry favor with a person, with no friends temporarily to enhance their ability, when the time is ripe, there will be a group of friends with you.

Zhou Guoping said,

Of all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental is to truly be yourself, to live your unique personality and value.

A poet wrote a lot of poems, also has a certain reputation, but he still has a considerable part of the poems not published, no one appreciates. The poet is upset about this.

The poet had a friend, a Zen master. On this day, the poet told the Zen master about his troubles. Zen master smiled, pointing to a luxuriant plant outside the window said: you see, what flower is that?

The poet looked at the plant and said: Evening primrose.

Zen master said: yes, this evening primrose only open at night, so everyone called it evening primrose. Do you know why night primrose flowers at night instead of during the day?

The poet looked at the Zen master and shook his head.

Zen master said with a smile: night flowers, and no one pays attention to it, it flowers, only to please themselves!

The poet was surprised: Pleasing himself?

Zen master smiled: flowers open during the day, are to attract attention, get others 'appreciation. And this evening primrose, in the absence of appreciation, still open themselves, fragrance themselves, it is only to make themselves happy. Is a human being worse than a plant?

Zen master looked at the poet and said: many people always give the key to their happiness to others. Everything they do is done for others to see and let others appreciate, as if only in this way can they be happy. In fact, most of the time, we should do things for ourselves.

The poet laughed and said, I understand. A person does not live to see others, but to live for himself, to be a meaningful self.

Zen Master nodded with a smile and said,"

A person, only to please themselves, can not give up; only to please themselves, can improve themselves; only to please themselves, can influence others. You know, evening primrose blooms at night, but many of us sleep with its fragrance.

02

We live not to please the world, but to please ourselves in our own way.

Pleasing yourself is not selfish, it is remembering the initial heart, only to know where to go.

Pleasing oneself is not to resist others and resist the secular world, but to make oneself beautiful and at the same time, to make the people around you and the things around you happy and beautiful.

Pleasing yourself is not selfish, but private, because first of all, let yourself bloom alone in loneliness, smile in loneliness.

Only by learning to live in a person's world can we face others and be kind to ourselves.

Mo Yan said at the Nobel Prize ceremony that he was ugly: When he was a child, many people in the village laughed at him in person: Look at your bear! There were a few bullies at school who even beat him up for it.

Mo Yan often shed tears for this, but his mother said to him: Son, you are not ugly, you do not lack a nose or eyes, limbs sound, ugly where? As long as you are kind and do good deeds, even ugliness can become beautiful.

Yang Lan once interviewed Yu Yu, founder of Dangdang. com, and asked her: Where is your least confident place?

She said: looks.

For this reason, she had a low self-esteem, but later she was successful in her career.

Therefore, Yang Lan asked again: Why do you become more and more confident as you grow older, and the more temperament and brilliance you have?

She answered: Accept yourself. Yang Lan couldn't help but praise him, saying that this point was worth learning from many women.

Accepting oneself is to accept oneself happily, including not only the affirmation of self-worth, but also the acceptance of one's own shortcomings or even defects, and the tolerance of failure and frustration.

Even if you are not handsome or beautiful, tall or beautiful, you can still appreciate your loveliness.

I love myself! Then, change yourself until you are infinitely close to perfection and become the best you can be.

This is the kingdom of God, the kingdom of God.

Anyone who has pursuit, quality and taste in life should be a pleasant person.

Life is to live their own, people's life should live for themselves, should like themselves, do not care too much about how others see, or how others think.

In fact, with the growth of age, no one wants to please who, and who is comfortable with who together, including friends, tired to hide a little further.

03

Pleasing others is not as good as being happy with yourself.

Better alone than against your will. Better regret than settle.

Only by pleasing yourself will others please you, and your value will make others better.

Pleased to say:

All attempts to please are better than pleasing yourself.

It's imperative to get better at yourself, knowing that pleasing yourself and getting compliments are two different things.

Everyone has to learn to please themselves, which I call optimism.

Happiness is nothing more than doing small things that simply please you.

Do something you want to do, please yourself often, and you will feel alive.

There were many interesting things in the world, but not many that pleased him.

Pleasing others is a fool's thing to do, pleasing oneself is a lifetime thing to do. When a man begins to try to please himself without disturbing others, his possession is freedom.

Zhang Jiuling, a poet of Tang Dynasty, wrote in Twelve Poems of Feeling: Vegetation has its own heart, why seek beauty folding.

It is natural nature for plants to seek beauty, so why should they seek beauty? I have talent and beauty for myself, not for your appreciation or your liking.

Pleasing yourself is better than pleasing others.

If you are in full bloom, the breeze will come from you.

If you are wonderful, God will arrange it.