The most important thing is that two people are together.

Do you really like people?

Still like him you want.

Sunny flower

Betruetowhoyouare . Stoptryingtopleaseotherpeopleorbesomeoneelse .

It’sbettertobeanoriginalversionofyourselfthananexactduplicateofsomeoneelse .

Be who you really are and don't try to please others or try to be someone. It's better to be who you are than to be a copy of anyone.

Durian is a fresh and refined cute girl, super-good personality, good figure, she is an interior designer, busy work, but does not hinder her versatility.

Can play the piano, can draw, can write good words, can cook good food, and most importantly, can tell all kinds of funny and dirty jokes.

When you laugh, it is always as bright as the wind, which makes people feel very comfortable. She has been married for more than two years, and recently she is preparing to divorce her husband.

When I first heard the news, I was a little surprised. Aren't they good on weekdays?

Then I went to ask her:

Durian, have you thought about it clearly? after all, this divorce is not a child's play, and the child is less than one year old. why did you two divorce?

Don't be confused. Is there any contradiction that two people can't sit down and talk about? I think usually your husband is very kind to you, ah, after all, it is also a husband and wife fight, can not come to this stage, do not go this far?

In line with the idea of persuasion and not persuading to leave, thinking that love and marriage are not easy, I painstakingly pulled a lot of truth about love and marriage with her.

Durian looked at me solemnly and said, "do you think I'm stupid, taking marriage as a family?" Tie the knot if you want, or leave if you want? I don't have the time to do this.

Moreover, we also have a baby, of course I want to give the children a complete and complete home, but this premise is that our marriage is happy, we respect each other, at least most of the time.

Although we appear to be together, we actually exist in name only, so we might as well let go of each other's hands while it's not too late, so that we can get together and break up and be happy. So I asked her, what is the reason for your divorce? Durian helplessly said, in fact, these days I have thought a lot, I have thought that I can live with patience, there is no need to make things into such a situation.

But I am really tired, tired heart is also tired, I returned home to face him, many times I do not know how to get along with him.

I have tried hard, I have tried the method I should try, and I have passed the communication. I don't have the strength to go on with him now. I don't know what kind of ghost we will turn each other into if we go on.

Do you know?

I chose to divorce because I couldn't be the most authentic myself around my husband. I couldn't find my own sense of belonging in my husband.

I have a very different character from him.

He is more reasonable, I am more emotional, he has a plan to do things, I do things more impulsively, I sometimes go wild, most of the time he is stubborn, he thought, these differences are not serious, we can complement each other, which is good.

However, these are not the most important, the most important thing is that I can not be the real myself in front of him, because the real I can always be rejected by him is useless, sometimes I wonder if I am really that bad.

I still remember that in my sophomore year, the third man in our dormitory fell in love for five months.

The boy is not from our department, but he is really a handsome guy.

When the two first fell in love, there was no big problem, but then we slowly found that the third was like a different person.

The third is a girl who doesn't like to dress up and doesn't like to wear a skirt. She has short hair and is mostly casual wear on weekdays.

At that time, we also said that love is really great. It can transform a woman who does not like to dress up and wear a skirt into a soft girl who does not go out without makeup or skirt. Love is really amazing.

Once, the four of us had nothing to do and played hot pot in the dormitory.

I chatted with Lao San and said, hey, I can also borrow your cosmetics. It just so happens that I will take part in a school competition in a few days.

I remember you didn't use these before?

Now go out on a date, don't even go out without makeup, flatter than the boss, and you have to keep your hair long!

Unexpectedly, the third man said with a depressed face, "you think I think, ah, I am also very tired, but my boyfriend said that I am not ladylike all day long, and my appearance without makeup is really very ordinary, and he doesn't want to see me like this."

In order to make him pleasing to the eye, I had to do something I didn't want to do, so as not to make us both unhappy.

I took a white look at her, you did not properly tell him that you do not like this, of course he does not know ah, you are asking for trouble!

The third said, I have said it several times, but he always said that he did this for my own good, otherwise he would not have told me this and let me listen to him.

I thought to myself, what is this with what ah, two people together, you are not supposed to like this kind of me you are with me?

The most important thing is that I can be the real myself around you, be the most comfortable myself, in front of my boyfriend, just be myself that he likes but doesn't like, what's the point? What else is this with?

So, a few of us told the third man that you should dress casually and don't wear makeup on your next date, just use your most real state to see him and see how he reacts. You have to think about it, if you really want to marry this man in the future, do you always want to be the less real you he likes, or the real you you like?

Later, the third man went to see him several times dressed in casual clothes and without makeup. At the beginning, he didn't say anything, but later he was reluctant to do so. He said that the third man was too casual and broke up with him directly. The reason is that she is not what he likes and what he wants.

Then the two let nature take its course.

We really like a person, like this person himself, he may have a lot of shortcomings, but in the end, what can attract you and make you want to be with him are the advantages you see in him and the qualities you like what you want. You want to be with him, right? if you don't find any of the characteristics you like in him, do you think you'll still be with him?

The answer is probably no! We like a person, not to think about how to change and transform each other, just want to transform each other into what we like, and then an awe-inspiring look, I do this for your own good.

Then you have to ask yourself, do you really like people? Do you like the real her?

Not long ago, I was chasing a TV series called "what on earth is dating and falling in love", which is a remake of Japan in China.

What impresses me most is the ending. The story did not deliberately put on the halo of the characters and sublimate them just because it is the big ending.

Finally, I found a subtle problem. On the contrary, the female master became a bit like a male master. A rational and knowledgeable female doctor began to know the feelings of quoting classics and reciting poems, while the male master became a little rational. I know that I am trying to analyze the problem. It is not easy for a naked Neet to describe him as a high-level vagrant.

She began to look a bit like him, but she still kept her true self, and so did he.

Therefore, no matter whether it is love or marriage, everyone's view is different, and the type that everyone likes and appreciates may be different.

In the eyes of some people, certain talents and conditions are one of the necessary options, but in the eyes of others, it may not be.

She likes those who are handsome, and he likes those who are beautiful; she likes those who respect people, have a sense of humor, have a sense of responsibility and know how to be filial, and he likes those with long hair who are gentle and considerate and who can cook.

In the final analysis, what is the most important thing for two people to be together?

Yes, you can.

Under the premise of not hurting him / her, he or she can be the truest and most comfortable self, and he doesn't dislike to bury you.

You can tolerate each other, accept or even appreciate each other's imperfections, and then become better selves together in the years to come.

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