No matter who you marry, please keep these points in mind

You have to understand that the right people are never right from the beginning, but get to know each other, run-in with each other, and then become the most suitable person.

More and more people around them are unwilling to get married.

Some people think that it is troublesome to get married and have children, while others feel that they are not ready either materially or psychologically.

In fact, no matter when you get married and who you marry, you should first understand these principles:

Getting rid of poverty is more important than getting out of order.

Browsing moments that day, I found an interesting phenomenon:

The younger the girl with no savings, the more anxious she is to fall in love and get married.

The older and more successful women are, the more eager they are to marry later.

Those women who are eager to marry late are not in a hurry to get out, but have more important things to do, that is, to save more money in their bank cards.

Most of them are the kind of people who can carry it clearly, knowing that they can be romantic and eat and drink before marriage, and once they get married, they are faced with all kinds of expenses in the marriage.

They do not want to get married to add some cosmetics for themselves, to buy some imported milk powder for their children, they have to obtain the consent of their husbands.

I saw a piece of news earlier:

The woman went home to visit her parents and brought 10,000 yuan to give out red envelopes. as a result, she was beaten by her husband, grabbed his wife's hair and threw her to the ground, beating and kicking her. The neighbor persuaded her to open it for a long time.

Only after understanding that the husband and wife run a small supermarket, and the money comes from both of them.

The husband thinks that the wife pays ten thousand yuan to his parents, which is too much, and the husband and wife disagree. In a fit of anger, the husband hit his wife.

For filial piety to parents, 10,000 yuan is not much, but it is because of this 10,000 yuan, the wife was subjected to domestic violence.

Is it important to get rid of poverty? It's important.

With an economic base, you don't have to think about your family's food expenses next month, you don't have to consider your child's milk powder money, not to mention whether the other party agrees or not. You can buy beautiful clothes when you see them, and go wherever you want to go.

In this society, making soup is more important than writing poetry, your craftsmanship is more important than men, and inner strength is more important than anything else.

Yang Mi participated in the "Venus Show". Venus asked, "if you want to buy a house for your parents, will you discuss it with Liu Kaiwei?"

Yang Mi said: no, because I can afford it.

We are all ordinary people, and we don't want to have assets like stars, but at least don't lower our quality of life because we get married and have children.

To understand that money brings sense of security, will be far more than love.

What is more terrible than lovelorn is unemployment.

In the movie "BFF", there is such a clip that the heroine Sven is a silly Bai Tian who is about to get married.

In her heart, her fiance is her world.

Until one day when Sven was having a party with her best friend, she accidentally saw her fiance cuddling with another woman.

From then on, her world collapsed, she never recovered, depressed in bed every day, covering herself tightly, not eating or drinking like a walking corpse, no matter how others teased her, she seemed dead without any reaction.

Lovelorn is terrible, but there is another thing that is more terrible than lovelorn.

Some backstage fans left a message saying that she had lost her job.

When she was young, she thought that a breakup was a big thing and the most heartbreaking thing in the world, but it wasn't until she lost her job that she realized that being lovelorn was nothing.

Many companies recruit mostly women under the age of 28, preferably unmarried and childless.

At the age of 33, I am not at a lower age, and I cannot guarantee that I have to take care of my children and the elderly. coupled with the two-child policy, all work units are afraid that she will take maternity leave when she is pregnant with a second child, so every time the interview process is very satisfactory, but the result is not satisfactory.

She has been out of work for three months and has been at home with her children all day.

Because of the lack of a person's income, the family's quality of life continues to decline, and from time to time they have to put up with the white eyes of their husbands and mothers-in-law.

At that time, she realized: inner loneliness and despair, self-denial is the most terrible.

Now, even my 19-year-old cousin who just went to college knows this truth:

If you lose your job, you can only buy a bottle of beer and squat by the side of the road and cry.

But if you are lovelorn without losing your job, you can cry under the Eiffel Tower in Paris, in the church of Santorini and in a hot air balloon in Turkey.

Therefore, unemployment is much more painful than being lovelorn.

Divorce is easier than marriage.

Some people say that marriage is very simple, two people holding the hukou book hand in hand, go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate, everyone will be happy.

But to be honest, marriage is not nearly as simple as divorce.

Divorce can be said not to love, said not to get together immediately to find a lawyer to divide the property, but want to meet a really suitable person to get married, it is too difficult.

The American TV series Black Mirror season 4 episode 4 tells a story about finding the right partner.

Scientists have developed an intelligent system that can help you deal with love and marriage.

It only takes you a while to fall in love with different people for different periods of time, and eventually the system will automatically help you find that 99. 8% of the people who are highly matched.

It sounds cool and time-saving and labor-saving, but the machine is not human and doesn't have that much emotion.

The result of the equipment is not always satisfactory, even if the matching degree is 99. The person who is 8% is not the most suitable TA.

How hard is it to meet the right person?

None of the four options can be answered correctly, not to mention finding the right person among a population of 1.4 billion.

But the crux of the problem is that even if you find such a person, the other person may not also think that you are the right person, and they may have another set of criteria for choosing a mate.

So divorce is easier than marriage, divorce at least has a goal in mind, how much property do I have to share? Am I going to raise the baby?

The answers are all concrete, but meeting the right person when you get married is abstract and unpredictable.

So don't worry and don't wait for the right person to show up out of thin air.

You have to understand that the right people are never right from the beginning, but get to know each other, run-in with each other, and then become the most suitable person.

When people reach a certain age, they should make more deposits in their bank cards. Don't always think that love is greater than heaven. You should learn to keep adding value and have the ability to support yourself at any time, let alone make do for the sake of marriage.

You should get married seriously and live a natural life without worrying about money, unemployment, or love.