The best tutor is a happy marriage

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Our greatest mistake is to give our worst temper and worst side to those closest to us, but leave patience and tolerance to strangers.

When parents are laughing and enthusiastic outside, but turn a blind eye to their loved ones when they return home, they are relatively speechless. In such an environment, children can not feel love from an early age, nor can they know how to get along with a happy marriage, which will eventually affect their children's values of marriage and family.

Yang Jiang defines husband and wife as follows:

Husband and wife should be lifelong friends, and the most important thing between husband and wife is friendship. Even if they are not bosom friends, they should at least be friends who can be partners or partners who respect each other.

A relationship between lovers rather than friends cannot last. Husband and wife are not enough friends, so they have to break up.

So parents must be careful about their marriage, everyone is the first time to be a parent, parents also need to learn, otherwise, you do not know that your inadvertent behavior has caused harm to your children.

A happy marriage requires not only love but also ability.

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In "the three of us", Yang Jiang describes the happy life of the family of three like this:

Our family is very simple; the three of us are very simple. We have nothing to ask for from the world, no contention with others, just to get together, stay together, and do what we can.

When we encounter difficulties, we bear them together, and they will no longer be difficult; when we help each other, no matter what is bitter and difficult, we can become sweet and sweet. If we are a little happy, we will become very happy.

While studying in England, in order to take care of Yang Jiang, Qian Zhongshu, who was clumsy on weekdays, boiled eggs, baked bread, heated milk, and made mellow black tea.

Then wake up the bleary-eyed Yang Jiang, support a small dining table on the bed, and put the delicious breakfast on the small table, so that Yang Jiang can sit on the bed and enjoy it at will.

Eating the meal cooked by her husband herself, Yang Jiang said happily: this is the most delicious breakfast I have ever had. Hearing his wife's satisfactory answer, Qian Zhongshu smiled with relief.

Only in such a loving and warm life, children can feel love, parents' words and deeds will affect their children, such invisible tutoring is undoubtedly the best gift for children.

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In adult counseling, many problems are caused by the traumatic experience of childhood, which you may not remember, but its impact is far-reaching and is the root cause of all kinds of problems.

Do you remember the video that went viral in moments before?

Every father wanted his daughter to live a happy life after marriage, but when he went to his daughter's house to see her, he suddenly found that his daughter's life was not what he thought it was:

Almost in an instant, the daughter changed from a quiet and elegant girl to a strong girl with multiple identities of nanny, mother, employee, wife and daughter.

The father was very sad. He regretted the example he had set for his daughter over the years.

When he saw that his daughter was so busy, while his son-in-law was calm, watching TV, drinking coffee and playing with the computer, his daughter shuttled between the laundry room and the kitchen, in sharp contrast to the child's father.

Isn't that how he gets along with his wife at home? As like as two peas!

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Children whose parents are happily married will take many detours less, and they will get a kind of stability and sense of security from an early age. Easier to trust others, but also more simple.

They got a sunny background from an early age, which is the best protection for them.

Therefore, the best tutoring that parents can give their children is the happiness of marriage.