Is this scene of deja vu familiar? Have you never seen yourself so stubborn?
To put it bluntly, it is that you can't resist the temptation of comfort and comfort.
There is a hot topic on Zhihu: what makes you maintain long-term self-discipline?
One of my favorite answers is:
For me, a high degree of self-discipline is because there is a strong driving force in my heart and is deeply aware of the consequences of lack of self-discipline. It is because of the previous painful experience that every time I can't hold on, I can grit my teeth because I don't want to have that experience again. I think, to some extent, pain is also a kind of wealth.
The reason for liking is very simple. I think many people's self-discipline comes from fear, and few people because of their extreme desire.
As a scholar once said: my biggest motivation to do this is panic. I can't accept a stagnant self.
Life is full of difficulties, self-discipline is not only the most important tool to solve life problems, but also the most important way to eliminate the pain of life.
Only those who love themselves can maintain a self-disciplined heart.
In her Love letter to herself, Faye Wong sings: if you don't love yourself, how can you love each other and give benefits to your lover?
In life, we often find that the more excellent people are, the more they know how to love themselves and take good care of their lives and work.
They can get up on time at six or seven o'clock every day, then dress up, put on exquisite makeup, and welcome the new day in high spirits. They always have all kinds of new plans for life, trying to make themselves better.
In fact, this face-looking world is fairer. Whether a person loves himself or not and whether he or she has self-discipline can be seen at a glance.
Lin Yichen, the actress who plays the heroine Yuan Xiangqin in "the Kiss of mischief", was broadcast live some time ago.
It is surprising that her face in her 30s is no different from that in the TV series. In the lens, she simply draws eyeliner, her skin is tight and fair, and there are no fine lines in the corners of her eyes.
The years seem to have bypassed her, spared her, and kept her 18-year-old playful and lovely face forever.
However, you and I should know one truth: behind all the splendor, there are all kinds of efforts that no one knows about.
Ariel Lin talked about her maintenance methods in the live broadcast: eat a balanced diet, vent stress, and be sure to get enough sleep.
These three points seem very simple, but it is very difficult to practice them day by day for decades.
Modern people are faced with the temptation of all kinds of dinners and delicacies.
You can't eat more of the food you like, you have to eat the food you don't like, and you have to strictly control your food intake, which is not simple.
When Ariel Lin is not filming, he goes to bed before ten o'clock every day and gets up at five o'clock. He knows how to keep in good health better than the elderly.
Now many young people are used to browsing Weibo, moments and all kinds of information every night, but they don't sleep.
Stay up until two or three o'clock in the evening, stay in bed until eleven or twelve o'clock the next day, do not eat breakfast, distracted, in the long run, the harm becomes more and more obvious.
Fine lines, dark circles under the eyes and unconcealed tiredness will arrive as promised.
Only loving yourself is the basis for obtaining other possibilities in life.
Only by loving ourselves can we have a good body to work hard.
Only by loving ourselves can we have the strength to take care of and cherish the people we cherish.
Only by loving ourselves can we constantly improve our wisdom on the way forward.
Only when we learn to love ourselves well can we have the right to appreciate, embrace and change the world.
When you finally learn to take care of your body, stop doing things that you know are harmful to you, and stop torturing yourself with negative emotions, you will find that your life has entered a new era.
Every metamorphosis means that you have abandoned a bad self and taken another step towards a better direction.
Only self-love can save people from all the darkness, and those who love themselves can keep the heart of self-discipline.
Only those who are self-disciplined can have more possibilities and luckier lives.
Because I want to illuminate the world, so I want to illuminate myself.
People who are self-disciplined and know how to control their emotions and desires will have a larger pattern.
Harry, the American ship king, did not give orders to his son when he taught his son, but brought his son into the casino.
At the beginning, he taught his son to stop every time he lost half of the principal. The son tried several times, and often lost all the principal because he was not reconciled to it.
Only after several attempts can you learn to throw in the towel and give up in time.
After getting familiar with the rules of the casino, the son began to win money, and Harry advised the son to stop.
The son was not reconciled and wanted to win more and win more, but the situation took a sharp turn and lost all his money.
After several times of training, he was finally able to control his win or lose within 10%, and no matter what the result was, he would stop in time.
Not to be controlled by desire means to control the most greedy part of human nature, not to be influenced by emotion and emotion, and to consider problems with a rational and calm attitude.
Sometimes, we don't need to get a lot, but we mistakenly think that we will be happier if we get more.
Most people fail not because of their own lack of skills, but because they can't control their emotions and desires.
Controlling desire does not mean sacrifice, but to gain, in order to win a broader life.
Those who are extremely self-disciplined enjoy a higher sense of achievement. It can make people feel interesting and fulfilling things continuously, instead of being controlled by emotional desires and getting short-term happiness.
When your life is dominated by emotions, idleness and desires, you may live out of order, live into a mess of emotions, and live into a pool of unrestrained flesh.
The philosopher Kant once said: the so-called freedom is not self-control, but self-control.
So please remember: your health, time, feelings, future, are extremely precious, can not have the slightest profligacy.
To be a self-disciplined person, you need to understand these four points.
one. Give a start to self-discipline and get up early.
Few people mention that if you want to maintain self-discipline, the most important thing you can do right away is not to read, not to meditate, not to write vows with a small notebook, but to get up early!
You must have no idea how important it is to get up early for one's life and growth.
Most normal people get seven to eight hours of sleep a day, but interestingly, European psychologists have found that:
In the subconscious of early risers, the disposable time of each day is longer. In contrast, in the subconscious of late risers, the day becomes much shorter.
This is because, in the subconscious of most people, 12:00 at noon is the dividing line for the day. If you always get up late and get up for half a day, people's psychology will inevitably be affected, close and anxious. At the same time, efficiency will also become relatively low, in short, a lot of disadvantages.
I once made a bet with a colleague that I would get up at 6 o'clock every day this month, which used to be 8 o'clock. Getting up two hours early means I have to go to bed early.
Every day after that, I played 1 on his Wechat at 6 o'clock punctually. In the first week, I played 1 and then slept for an hour. I struggled to get up again because of my inner uneasiness.
Later, after getting used to it, I got up at 6 o'clock.
When I get up early, I spend an hour reading professional books, or listening to related courses, occasionally practicing my favorite violin, and spending the rest of my time enjoying breakfast leisurely.
Feel that when you have a few hours at work, you will feel that you have a little holiday every day and your work will be much more active.
two. Self-discipline cannot be achieved in one step.
We always want to make a plan so that we can completely change our lives. But the facts tell us that this is a very naive idea.
First of all, if people want to rely entirely on willpower to adhere to something, it is almost impossible. Because willpower is limited, it, like physical strength, will be consumed.
So we must form habits, because habits can help us to persist in doing something easily with very little willpower.
But the formation of a habit is very difficult and requires long-term and deliberate training.
So, when you try to control too many things at once, you can easily become physically and mentally exhausted or even collapse because of excessive willpower. The result is often a period of complete indulgence and loss of confidence in yourself.
Therefore, we have to change things step by step, and we will not be fat with one bite.
It is worth noting that we may slack off along the way, for example, if you want to lose weight, one day you can't help eating a full meal. Or want to read every day before going to bed, one night to play games, instead of reading.
This is entirely possible, but it does not mean failure.
It's easy for us to think that if we don't stick to it one day, it's a failure, so I'd better give up.
No, you didn't fail! You can still continue your plan tomorrow, as long as you stick to it for one more day, you will get one more point.
The key to success is not how perfectly you execute, but how long you stick to it.
So from today on, throw away those overwritten plans and start with a small thing. It doesn't matter if you break it halfway. It doesn't mean failure. Reward yourself if you've done it well. Don't blame yourself if you haven't done it well.
When you get into the habit of doing it, you will find that you can stick to it effortlessly.
three. You should stay away from temptation.
Remember, never overestimate your willpower. Few people can stand firm in the face of temptation. We also consume willpower when we fight temptation, and over time, you will collapse completely.
Some time ago, a friend inadvertently said that people who play Douyin will unwittingly browse for several hours. I have read many articles before, saying that Douyin and Masters are so attractive that I can't help but wonder if I can get hit. As it turned out, I was just an ordinary person.
Later, I couldn't stand the decadence, so I got up in the middle of the night and uninstalled these software.
Therefore, at any time, you should take the initiative to stay away from temptation, just as you do not test human nature, and do not test your willpower.
They can't stand the test.
four. Self-discipline has something to do with your physical condition.
In fact, your physical condition will greatly affect your will, mood, intelligence and so on.
Have you ever found that when you don't get enough sleep, you will easily lose your temper, get distracted from your work, and don't want to do what you should do?
When I realized this, I began to pay great attention to rest, because only when I have a good rest can I have enough energy to deal with my work.
The rest here includes many aspects:
one. Early to bed and early to rise
two. Take a nap at noon, but not for more than 30 minutes
three. Physical exercise
four. Give up work completely on weekends and do something that doesn't consume too much energy.
five. Listen to the music
All this is for the purpose of restoring energy. Only when you are energetic can you do things well and achieve self-discipline.
Maintaining self-discipline can not be done well by willpower alone. it is difficult for ordinary people to have too much willpower, and it is not necessary.
You should take advantage of all the factors that can help you with self-discipline, whether it's the environment, physical conditions, or even the supervision of others, or the mandatory arrangements of the company or school.
Only in this way can we maintain self-discipline more efficiently.
Self-discipline is not our awkward grievance and control to do what we don't want to do. Instead, everything you do brings you closer to what you really want to be.
I hope everyone can cultivate a highly self-disciplined self.
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