01
I have read such a report that in a prestigious school, being a security guard, a hostel supervisor, or even a cleaner is more promising than other people in the same position in the same industry.
For example, in the canteen of Tsinghua University, there used to be a cook, Zhang Liyong, whose daily job was to pick up coal balls and steam steamed buns, but seeing that his classmates of the same age were all elites, he felt very inferior, so he decided to work hard from then on.
He didn't even graduate from high school, but he got 630 out of 670 on the TOEFL and finally took a job related to English.
For example, there was a security guard at Peking University, Zhang Juncheng. At that time, several foreigners entered the school. He was ridiculed because he could not speak English. Finally, he decided to study hard.
And with the help of a professor, he won the college diploma in the law adult college entrance examination of Peking University, and later served as executive vice president of a private technical secondary school.
According to incomplete statistics, in these two schools, through reading, the campus service staff who completely changed the fate, there are nearly 150.
Thus it can be seen that famous schools can not only be famous, but also enable people who are originally ordinary, or even at the bottom, to counterattack life.
In fact, this does not have much to do with the halo, reputation and fame of famous universities, but depends on the cutting-edge talents, higher platforms and spiritual details of famous universities.
When a person is in a circle full of positive energy, he will be influenced, nurtured and influenced, and can even inspire fighting spirit.
I have to say, what kind of environment you are in and who you get along with are sometimes really important, and it even determines the height of your future life.
02
In the workplace, there is a theory: if the leader is a wolf, even if his staff are all sheep, he will be taken into a wolf.
On the contrary, the leader is a sheep, even if the employees were once all wolves, they will be taken into sheep.
For example, if your leader is not serious, timid and likes to blame, then, over time, you will slowly adapt and degenerate into this.
But if your leader, dare to try, bold innovation, not afraid of responsibility, you will also be full of drive, continue to stimulate potential, improve strength, increase experience.
There is a saying that following is very important to people.
Your leader is your guide, whether he goes high or low, visionary or mediocre and incompetent, almost directly determines whether you have a bright future, or a limited future, a malleable talent, or a lack of talent.
And your work level and ability will also be indirectly affected by your colleagues.
For example, if your colleagues are a group of people who are unmotivated, passive and lazy, then you will also be brought into the comfort zone of warm boiled frogs.
But if they are all a group of people with inspired thinking, quick thinking and strong learning ability, then you will follow in their footsteps and keep moving forward.
Someone once said:
When you find yourself in a circle all the time, no progress, or even retrogression, consider whether you should change the environment.
Because the people you work with, their words and deeds, speech and thinking, state of mind, etc., will gradually assimilate you in a subtle influence.
03
I have a cousin who is in the second year of senior high school this year. His grades dropped seriously last semester.
My aunt and uncle were so worried that they gave their cousins extra lessons and warnings, and even couldn't sleep at night.
But no matter how much you toss about, the effect is not obvious.
In desperation, my aunt went to find my cousin's head teacher and found out that for more than half a year, several playful and game-loving students in my cousin's class had come closer.
Later, his aunt deliberately asked him to avoid and associate with this kind of classmates. as a result, before long, his cousin's grades improved significantly.
When we were at school, our parents always taught us to play more with students with good moral character, courtesy and good performance.
At that time, I thought this view was old-fashioned and snobbish, but now when I think about it, it is true.
Because for children, willpower and judgment are weak, their living habits, learning state, way of thinking, etc., are easily influenced by classmates and friends around them.
In fact, the same applies to adults.
If your friends are complaining, extreme and irritable, and full of negative energy, then your temper will not be too gentle and your hostility will be very serious.
On the contrary, your friends, are positive, kind to others, always grateful, then you will also be a sunny person.
Because everything has the characteristic of mutual influence, and you spend the most time with the friends around you, at this time, friends are like a mirror, you will unwittingly refer to each other's habits, temper, values.
Xunzi once said: Peng Sheng hemp, do not help but straight. White sand is in nirvana, and it is black with it.
The friends around you, their character, what their qualities look like, are usually indirectly projected on you.
04
Buffett, the god of stock, once said:
The most important investment in my life is not which stock I bought, but who I chose to be my partner.
Once I thought he was joking. Later, after witnessing the current situation of many couples around me, I really understood how correct this sentence is.
A married man said that before he was unmarried, he started a business and started an investment with several friends, but after his marriage, his wife repeatedly urged him to get back the original capital of 100000 yuan, and then put the money in the bank, and three years later, the project he had given up was worth millions.
Now even if he has more ambitions and opportunities appear many times, he has repeatedly given up because of his wife's lack of support.
I asked him: can't you make your own decisions?
He said helplessly: it is almost impossible for a married man to join his career without hesitation.
Needless to say, a lot of drooling and a lot of nagging are enough to upset you every day, and it's harder to deal with an unreasonable wife than with 100 tricky clients.
I know an acquaintance who, before marriage, was still a gentle, knowledgeable young girl, but after marriage, she was forced to become a shrew with a man who was unmotivated, full of lies, and even domestic violence.
Many people like to say that women become unlovable as soon as they get married, but in fact, when they meet a husband who does not earn money, regardless of family or children, they are left with complete despair except for their hoarse voice, Hedong lion roar and torn faces.
In fact, your partner and you are grasshoppers on the same rope.
The disharmony of either side, falling off the chain, not cooperating, will sink each other into the sea, or even into a bottomless abyss.
Because you are tied to each other, breathe together, share a common destiny, and even eat and sleep, you can not escape each other's palms and eyes.
Even if you take the initiative to leave, it must be covered with scars, self-damage of 800, or even a few layers of skin, it is not excessive.
05
People are all social, and what we will eventually become does not simply depend on what we want to be.
But around your work, life, relationships, those closest to you, often meet, have to be with the people and circles, in what level and level.
Low-level people and bad circles, like a cancer, continue to spread to you, and in a subtle influence, corrode you, leaving you without the ability to resist until you are in cahoots with them.
And high-level people and high-quality circles are like the warm sun.
They not only bring their own light, but also drive away the dark clouds and shadows from you and give you a new life.
Stay away from negative energy and get close to positive energy. if we really have no choice, we can try our best to stick to our heart, strengthen our strength, and keep ourselves clean.
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