The doctor of Zhejiang University found it. Unfortunately, only the body was found.
On the morning of October 14, a floating body was found in the waters of the Qiantang River near the fourth Bridge of the Qianjiang River in Hangzhou, which was identified by his family and identified as the body of Hou, a doctoral student at Zhejiang University, who was missing, thepaper.cn reported.
"maybe I just don't like it and don't fit in with the world, so I don't want to stay any longer," he wrote in Hou's last Wechat moments. It's really hard to stop pretending and lying. I just want to be myself.
Hou so-and-so apologized to his family in the last circle of friends. If you have any regrets, it is that you are sorry to your family. I don't know what to do. I'm sorry, Mom. I really don't know what to say.
There is only guilt left. I would like to be reincarnated not to be your child in the next life, and I don't want to let you get hurt again.
When I was chatting with a colleague a while ago, she told me her recent troubles:
It has been a year since her daughter graduated, but recently she has lost her job and has nothing to do at home. This is the third time she has lost her job since graduation.
My daughter was not like this before. When she was a student, her grades were always excellent. From an early age, we gave her the best kindergarten, the best primary school, junior high school and high school were always top students in the class.
As a result of outstanding achievements, the school directly sent famous universities.
When I was in college, I also won a lot of scholarships and often gave speeches at class meetings. But I don't know why, it changed completely when I got to work.
The colleague couldn't help calling her daughter's former leader to ask why, and the leader's words made her anxious: your daughter's attitude towards work was lazy, she didn't take the initiative to say anything, her own work was always procrastinating, and she couldn't accept criticism. I lost my temper and left.
After listening to the words of the former leader, my colleagues were surprised: I used to be proud of such an excellent daughter, and I also felt that I was a very successful mother, but how did it become like this all of a sudden?
I think things certainly didn't get worse all of a sudden.
There must have been some bad qualities in this girl, such as poor sociability, lack of respect for others, psychological fragility and a poor sense of responsibility, all of which were overshadowed by grades before graduating from college.
Many parents have a wrong thinking child, health, happiness, good grades, everything OK.
So, when she was two years old, you made her a fancy breakfast and taught her English words, but you didn't teach her to be well-behaved and polite. She took other people's things casually and didn't say hello to her elders, you didn't think so.
So after work, she ate a lot of snacks and talked loudly in the quiet office, and she took it for granted when she met the leader who turned a blind eye.
When she was five years old, you asked her to learn calligraphy, piano and taekwondo, but you didn't teach her how to play happily with children. She occupied public toys, you let her go, she was bullied and you beat her back.
So after her work, she scrambled for computer performance with her old colleagues, always unconsciously assaulted others, repeatedly conflicts with people, and did not know how to solve them.
When she was ten years old, you only focused on whether she was praised for her excellence in the exam, but you didn't tell her to respect her teacher and be grateful to her parents. She yelled at her elders, you thought she was brave, and she ate when others didn't sit down. You just think she's full.
So after work, the leader picked up food and she turned the table, the leader opened the door and got into the car, and she chatted at the leadership meeting, without realizing that there was anything wrong with it.
When she was 15, you were all about whether she could be admitted to a good university, but you didn't teach her how to make her strong in her heart. her grades dropped as soon as the teacher gave a cold eye, and she was exasperated when her relatives gossiped. You shared a common enemy with her, thinking that it was all the teacher's and relatives' fault.
So after the work, the leader criticized her and then she wanted to resign, and when something went wrong with her work, she was terrified and could not bear it.
When she was 20 years old, you always wondered if she could get a good job, but you didn't tell her that the human nature was complicated and the world was difficult, and you didn't want her to suffer a little.
So after graduation, she complained bitterly about working overtime, unable to cope with the exclusion, isolation, infighting and infighting of her colleagues.
She may be admitted to a famous school as you wish, with a high degree, and even versatile. However, she is selfish, indifferent, fragile, unresponsible, ignorant and completely unable to adapt to society.
In the sea of society, as soon as she went into the water, there was a huge rejection reaction. Other people's drizzle, are her storm, other people's small waves, are her stormy waves.
The boat of friendship capsized, the ship of work sank, and the great ship of life leaked.
Her head is broken and you don't know what to do.
Society is the ultimate criterion for testing a person and a pair of parents. And this standard is comprehensive.
I met such an intern a few years ago.
She is a junior intern arranged by a normal university in China. on her first day in the company, she took the initiative to help the front desk and administrative staff clean the office, and talked and laughed, and her colleagues liked her very much.
Her job is to give lessons to pupils who come to make up lessons every weekend. usually, she prepares the lesson plan several days before class, borrows materials from experienced teachers to exchange educational methods, and sometimes comes to my office on her own initiative. tell me her ideas and methods.
I remember a funny thing happened once, when she suddenly stopped in the middle of her speech. When I asked her what was wrong, she stuck out her tongue and smiled and said, "I saw you sneezing attentively. My father said not to disturb people who are sneezing."
After just two months of internship, she has taken the children to class on her own. I have quietly observed her appearance in class, and her passion is rare among the newcomers in the past.
I still think that no matter what unit this girl is in, she will do very well and will be very popular.
Her parents must have contributed to her upbringing, friendliness, sense of responsibility, initiative and ability to resist setbacks.
I remember she once told me that every time her parents called, they would ask a few questions: did you help the teacher today? Have you made any new friends? What have you got? I think parents who can ask these questions must be very different from parents who only ask their children if they have enough food and clothing.
Long Yingtai said that the so-called father and daughter mother and son only means that he is constantly watching his back drifting away in this life.
In fact, every parent knows that children always have to leave us, go into society and create their own lives with their own minds and hands.
We can provide him with a comfortable life and extreme care when he is young, but we cannot stay with him for a lifetime.
One day, he will face the world alone, solve his own problems, bear the wind and rain, and kill himself.
So, if you really love him, you should teach him the ability to get along with the world before he leaves you. This is your greatest help and protection to him.
In fact, the ultimate mission of being a parent is to cultivate children who adapt to society.
And it needs to be cultivated from a very young age to provide children with opportunities to get in touch with the outside world and to encourage them to participate in social activities.
Children are not only members of the family, but also members of society. When they grow up, they have to live and work harmoniously with other members of society.
Let children have more contact with society from an early age, participate in more group activities, and encourage them to communicate and cooperate with people in different occupations.
In cooperative activities, children cultivate the emotion of mutual help and love, and in social activities, they restrict each other, which is very effective in cultivating self-control.
Remember that the greatest success and highest honor for parents is that children can live happily, smoothly, like a fish in water and with ease in society.
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