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On the weekend night, when I was on the phone with my cousin before going to bed, she sighed and said to me, "another year is over in the twinkling of an eye, but I can't remember the last time I took the exam."
The reason for this feeling is that not long ago, a colleague who had been her partner for many years suddenly announced that she had passed the qualification exam and was about to move to a foreign company to become a supervisor. Before that, my cousin always thought that the other party would only choose to muddle along until retirement, just like myself.
Cousin is a cashier of a private company, the company location is remote, the treatment is not high, but the workload is very large, basically go out early and come home late every day. For this reason, she often complains to me and thinks that it is really boring to go on like this. She only earns money to sell cabbage, but she has to have the heart of selling white powder.
At first, every time I heard her talk about the difficulties, I advised her that if she was really dissatisfied with the job, she should either make up her mind to leave as soon as possible, or learn more skills in order to build up strength and strive for promotion or job-hopping.
But then again, at the end of every time, she always said in a noncommittal tone, saying that she was so busy at work, where would she have time to learn anything more? What's more, what if you meet a more demanding boss after job-hopping?
After a long time, I finally know that her complaint is just a simple vent of emotion, and does not really want to change.
So, I was surprised that she would take the initiative to study this time. I couldn't help asking her: don't you always feel that you can't find the time to study? how do your colleagues do it?
I also asked my colleague this question today, and her answer is that as long as you want to do one thing, there will always be more ways than difficulties. My cousin then replied: although it is very hard, I still have to admit that I have been looking for excuses to neglect my studies in the past few years. I thought I could make do with life, but I turned out to be the one who made do with it.
Yes, if you don't want to suffer from study, you can only continue to suffer from life.
And, one day, you will find that no matter how hard you study, it is only temporary. Because give up study, and let oneself depreciate unceasingly and retrogression, only then can have the suffering that cannot be eaten all one's life.
02
A few years ago, when I worked in my last unit, I was full of complaints about the status quo. I always feel that giving is not in direct proportion to what I get. I feel that I have an empty ambition, but I don't get the appreciation I deserve.
I blamed myself for a long time in this state, and wasted a long time doing nothing, until I finally realized that no matter how much I complained, it wouldn't change anything.
After that, I picked up the books I had discarded for a long time, read and took notes every day, and then signed up for an online training course to learn to write after work.
Writing is like a farmer ploughing the field, every word is hard. Over the past two years, I have given up almost all my rest time and entertainment hobbies. I have also experienced the loneliness and loneliness of sitting at a desk late at night, and I am often frustrated by not being able to write a good manuscript.
But it was almost at the same time that I began to taste the surprises that writing gave me.
From earning contribution fees at the beginning, to having a fixed platform for soliciting contributions, and then to being employed as a teacher by an online school, these changes not only bring me considerable part-time income, but more importantly, it also gives me more platforms for self-expression and more possibilities for development.
It's amazing, isn't it? I used to suffer from having nowhere to make money, but now the opportunity comes uninvited.
I began to understand: at that time, I could not earn a high income because I did not have the corresponding value, and it was my learning ability that determined whether I was valuable or not.
I know a young literary friend in the writing circle. After giving birth to her daughter, she became a full-time wife. She is a standard learner. She belongs to the kind of person who even takes her child to the amusement park and does not forget to sit by and listen to learning audio with headphones.
At her insistence, in just two years, she passed the tax accountant and Japanese translation exam successively. Up to now, her income at home full-time is no less than that of working outside.
As a matter of fact, she has a good family, a stable life and no worries about food and clothing. The friends around her were quite puzzled by her hard work, and felt that there was no need for her to embarrass herself so much.
But she always smiled calmly: I embarrass myself now in order not to be embarrassed by life in the future. I hope to bring myself and my daughter a future with more sense of security through my efforts.
Yes, if not for a cold to the bone, where the plum fragrance to the nostrils, this is an irrefutable truth. And learning is the necessary experience before life can bloom magnificently, and how hard the process is, the result is worth it.
03
No matter in life or in the workplace, there are many people who complain that they are tired, but few people are willing to look back and examine their own efforts.
Why would we rather have the pain of life than the pain of study?
Zhihu's most popular answer is this: the bitterness of life can be paralyzed by fatigue, diverted by entertainment, and finally become accustomed to it, which can be called passivation. The pain of learning is that you always have to maintain a keen sense of touch and a clear understanding of the abundant feelings, which can be called sharpening.
I think it makes sense. Most of the time, we are used to complaining about the bitterness of life and enduring it at the same time, not because we don't know it can be changed, but just trying to avoid the hardship of learning.
Unfortunately, life can never tolerate any procrastination. All the laziness you steal today will become the straight suffering of the future. And the most painful gap in life is that you neither deserve your ambition nor live up to your suffering.
There is no doubt that active learning will have a moment of hard work, whether it is the sun at five o'clock in the morning or the lonely lights late at night, the process will not make people too comfortable. But it is in this suffering that we are able to witness the footprints of our struggle and see the possibility of life for the better.
Some suffering, since can not escape, it is better to face it as soon as possible, face it, eat it.
There is no limit to learning. although we have to take hardships as a boat, it is the only way to the vast world.
The new year:
Don't forget to study more. You should know that only knowledge can enrich our souls, open up our pattern, and lead us to a better future.
Advise you not to be afraid of hard study. You have to believe that every hardship you eat for your study hides the richest reward of life.
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