The lack of personality makes the soul nowhere to put.

In the long-term exam-oriented education system, we judge a student as a bad student because his score is not high, but he may already have a rich understanding of human nature. We also judge a good student by scores, but scores do not mean that he has the ability to face emotional and ethical problems. The development of study and personality are absolutely two different things. Knowledge is not equal to wisdom, nor will it be completely transformed into wisdom.

Read ten thousand books and travel ten thousand miles! The ancient Chinese sages gave us a perfect definition of education. At present, modern education (mainly including school education and family education) is entering a critical period of connecting the past with the future and training qualified talents for national rejuvenation. Over the past 40 years of reform and opening up, education has made considerable development and progress. However, various defects still exist, and the school is still producing a lot of people with depression and autism! The bad news that some students are unable to cope with the pressure of study and commit suicide comes from all over the country, because modern education spends almost all its time on knowledge education, while moral and aesthetic education, practical education, and the cultivation of work ability and skills are seriously lacking, and time is almost completely occupied.

It is true that school education is suitable for the cultivation of knowledge and ability to do things, while family education is a hotbed of truth, morality and morality. Knowledge can never be learned, and how much knowledge is really useful to children?

If you are not engaged in specialized research work, then most of the knowledge learned in school will be forgotten, but personality education such as collaboration, gratitude, creativity, imagination, endurance, and self-reflection will eventually settle down and benefit for life. In these areas of education, the joint efforts of schools and parents can play a greater role.

Examination-oriented education binds people's minds and rooting out the source of scientific and technological innovation of the Chinese nation. I don't know how many years have been chanting the slogan of quality education. What is quality education? If the enrollment rate doesn't go up, no one will spare you. The general environment remains the same, and the microclimate cannot afford wind and waves, so we can only ask for hardship. It is not new for quality education pilot to return to the track of examination-oriented education.

What is family education? It is the words and deeds of parents to their children, which is often reflected in non-intellectual factors. Such as gratitude, respect for others, basic rules and so on, is to let the child become a qualified social person. What kind of person a child becomes, to some extent, depends first of all on his parents.

However, it is a pity that parents pay little attention to this, let alone the correct concept of education and talents. When it comes to tutoring, it becomes paying teachers to teach cultural lessons, rather than parents putting it into practice. Chinese parents are very willing to spend money on their children's education, do not hesitate to smash pots and sell iron, but forget their own responsibility and pay. What's more, some dignitaries and rich people trade money for responsibility. When the child is very young, it is irresponsible to spend a lot of money to let the child study abroad alone, ostensibly to contribute to the child.

When there is something wrong with our children, we often blame the school and society, rather than reflecting on ourselves. When we complain about examination-oriented education, do we reflect that we are also an active promoter? Do you force your child to sign up for a lot of tutoring classes? When we accuse society of disorder, do we set an example for our children?

To judge whether a person is a talented person or not, we should not only look at his culture, but also emphasize not only mathematics, physics and chemistry, but also humanities and hard technology, but also his general expression ability, communication ability, coordination ability, and speculative ability. to see if he is an interesting person.

What kind of education is the best education? What is the difference between ancient and modern education? The Master said: the superior man is based on this, which is based on standing and is born in Taoism. Education in ancient China is mainly personality education, that is, life education, that is, from sweeping, advance and retreat, to deal with these little things, to be a man first and then to learn. To cultivate children's independent personality, start from the life bit by bit, from what they can do, step by step, and gradually improve. No matter how good the education is, it is not as good as the awakening of a child's inner strength. That is, the so-called self-cultivation, the family, governing the country, pacifying the world!

School is not a place to train examination machines. These children cannot be sacrificed in this way. We should give them the best music, the best literature, the best movies, and let them be nurtured. And these are not what exams can bring to them.

According to my 36 years of teaching experience, I have found that many students with excellent academic achievements in school, including some top students in the college entrance examination, have achieved nothing after entering the society, while many students with average academic performance in school or even poor students who are mischievous have been able to make good achievements in a certain field or industry after leaving school for society.

For more than a decade, more than 80% of the students who studied painting around me were poor students with poor culture at that time, but now 90% of them are popular talents in their respective jobs. Among them, he worked as a designer in the Metropolitan Architectural Design Institute, worked in the Provincial Federation of Literature and Art, national cadres, painters, horticultural designers, and some were studying for a PhD. They are all confidently active in their respective positions, and some of them are even reused or promoted.

If you actually come into contact with students with low subject scores, you will know that they do not spend too much time preparing for the exam. On the contrary, they may spend a lot of time getting to know others and paying attention to human nature. Like watching movies or reading novels. There are many opportunities to touch the problems of human nature in life. Their academic performance is poor, but they have a sound personality, a healthy state of mind, a cheerful personality and interesting life. However, those so-called good students have very high scores in professional knowledge. But it's zero in terms of moral and emotional handling. They do not know what is true, good and beautiful, and what is false and ugly, so once they encounter setbacks and blows, they struggle to find an exit, and their souls have nowhere to put and often go to extremes.

According to statistics, the crimes committed by college students in our country account for 1.26% of the total number of college students. And there are three common characteristics:

1. The criminal suspects are all highly educated college students with excellent grades. He usually performs well, but he is introverted and tends to have inferiority complex.

2. The suspect was resentful because he had some minor conflicts with the victim, which eventually led to a tragedy.

3. During the arraignment and investigation, criminal suspects are often unwilling to admit their mistakes, do not feel that they are wrong, are self-centered, and never consider for others.

In the face of one by one handcuffed prisoners and college students, people can't help but ask: what is the reason why some college students commit crimes? In addition to the lack of personality education and the adverse cultural influence of society, the school education system is not perfect, quality education has not been really implemented, and moral and aesthetic education has not been given due attention; in order to enroll in the rate of enrollment and get high marks, teachers, students and parents are very busy, students are under great pressure of schoolwork, and they do not have time to get in touch with classical literary and artistic works. These are precisely one of the important sources of students' sound psychological quality and healthy personality training.

Aesthetic education takes image as the means, emotion as the core, and the realization of people's all-round development as the purpose. Through aesthetic education, people can have the ideal of beauty, the sentiment of beauty, the character of beauty, the accomplishment of beauty, and the ability to appreciate and create beauty. Literature is a human study, it directly acts on people's spiritual life, questioning life, torturing the soul, it can warm people's hearts like the sunshine of spring. Ma Yun said on many occasions that the future is the era of big data and artificial intelligence, and many jobs in the industrial era in the past will be replaced by artificial intelligence. Can be innovative, creative and aesthetic ability, artificial intelligence can not be replaced.

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