one
When I went to the neighbor's house for a chat the other day, she told me that she had gone to a party of an organization not long ago. when everyone introduced herself, she mentioned a social position, such as the director of XX, the president of XX, and the name of the company. when it was her turn, she didn't know how to introduce herself. Although I am on the shift, I can't get my current position and background at all. After the self-introduction is finished, others shake hands with each other, and those who make preparations are intertwined, only when they finish talking, it is over.
She told me: when I was in my twenties, I went out to high every day, changed jobs every few days, and quit my job for a few months without a problem. At that time, I felt that life was so long that there was no need to work as hard as others, and life was not in a hurry. As a result, now that he is in his thirties, everyone around him is in good shape, but he is still hanging around at the bottom.
It doesn't matter whether you want to catch up or not in life. the important thing is that you may be the only one left behind.
Some time ago, there was a particularly popular saying, which probably means that as long as there are no children, there is no need to catch up in life. But in fact, the person who says this sentence may be on his way, but you believe it and practice it.
Life is like this, especially in big cities, people are overwhelmed by all kinds of pressure, and they can only rely on some light jokes to give themselves some comfort. But when you wake up, you find that everyone around you is chasing each other, and you are so distracted that you can't even squeeze into the subway.
After talking about fleeing from the north, Shanghai and Guangzhou for so many years, I haven't seen anyone really leave. Everyone still put on flat heels at the entrance of the subway and poured into the crowd to start a day's struggle.
two
A few days ago, a small client of the post-90s generation said to me: sister Xing, I have no clients recently. I am so sad.
I asked him: weren't you very busy some time ago? Have a good rest these days.
He told me: young, do not want to rest. I have to work. I like to be overwhelmed by work.
I called him a pervert, but at the same time I felt that it was the same when I was young. Maybe everyone is like this when they are young, but after a few years, they begin to learn to be lazy, and in a few years, they will be too lazy to cramp.
A few days ago, a friend chatted that when a new group of interns came into the company to brainstorm together, it was a special thing. Everyone thinks that they have wonderful ideas, but they all think that they are so impractical that they can't implement them, or they are digging holes for themselves without knowing it. It is said that young people have many ideas, they are not called ideas, they are called fantasies.
I asked her, what idea did she choose in the end?
The friend said, "of course I chose my idea." In fact, there is no creativity, this kind of long-term service customers, the way is about the same every month, just change it according to last month, nothing special.
You see, it is not that other people are fanciful, but that we are too lazy to think about it at all. We have long learned lazy and ingenious ways to exploit loopholes day after day. What we are afraid of is not the new ideas of the newcomers, but that their new ideas will bring us more work. Why do you find so many things for yourself with the same salary anyway?
three
I am a very demanding person of myself, and I often reflect on myself, especially when I am about 30 years old. I didn't even realize that I was already in my 30s. In the past, when I saw other people reaching middle age, I sighed for them, but I didn't expect that I would arrive so soon.
The teacher of the early education class sent a text message asking the child to prepare materials and tools for tomorrow's class. I've been rummaging through the cabinets for a long time, but I haven't found it all yet, and I feel that it will be a disgrace to the child if I don't bring it all. Other children have it. If we don't bring it all, it will make the children feel inferior and lose face.
When I was looking for something, it suddenly occurred to me that this is my first time to do my parent's homework. I used to watch others do it and laugh at others in my moments. You see, now it's my turn. I am actually a parent now, but in my heart I always feel that I am too lazy to be taken care of.
My friend held a parent-teacher meeting a few days ago and came back and said to me, "Today is so wonderful. I am actually the parent of a child. I actually went to the parent-teacher meeting as a parent."
You see, each of us did not realize that time was so fast that we were left behind by others before we were careful; before we were old enough, we became other people's parents; and before we had lived like a young man for a few years, we were already old.
four
In the past, I was a very stubborn person. I only believed in my own feelings and did not accept the opinions of others. Recently, I have been thinking a lot. I slowly found that when I tried to trust others, I actually found that other people's strengths happen to be their own weaknesses, and it feels good to work together seamlessly.
As a middle-aged woman in her 30s, although she talks less and less and her brain is getting worse and worse, she is trying to open her heart slowly. People who didn't like it in the past decided to believe him to have a try; in the past, if they thought the idea of the Arabian Nights was impossible, they might as well think carefully about the feasibility; what they disdain to do in the past, they might as well do it themselves.
I found that time seems to have turned back ten years, and I have become that psychopath-like little girl again.
To this end, I set some more rules for myself:
Only by reading books for at least half an hour a day, especially those books you don't want to read, can you really increase your knowledge.
Open your heart and listen to the opinions of others. If your first reaction is no, change it to: give it a try.
Take part in different activities, put away your disdain and take a look at it with appreciation rather than criticism and fault-finding.
Only by meeting different people and chatting with people in different fields can we really understand our unknown world.
In the face of things you don't dare and don't want to do, encourage yourself to try more without losing a piece of meat. At best, you will fail. Anyway, you are not a celebrity and you will not lose face.
I used to work at home every day, but I was often in a bad mood and my mind was closed. Now basically every day at noon arranged for friends and customers in different fields to eat, often take children to participate in a variety of new activities, just feel that life has been very good ah, but I have been closed the door.
A few days ago, I bought a long red dress as red as a red envelope. I took off the black, white and gray that I always thought I should wear at the age of 30. Well, the original one full of passion and vitality came back. Just like that post-90s small customer, want to work, want to work hard, let the storm come more violently!
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