Stay away from villains, away from right and wrong.
Let's start with a story:
Emperor Taizong asked Xu Jingzong:
I think among the civil and military officials of the Manchu Dynasty, you are the most capable, but there are still people who keep talking about your mistakes in front of me. Why?
Xu Jingzong replied:
Spring rain is as expensive as oil, farmers love it because it moistens crops, but travelers hate it because spring rain makes the road muddy and difficult to walk; the autumn moon shines like a mirror in all directions, talented scholars and beauties happily appreciate the moon and recite poems, but thieves hate it for fear of showing their ugly deeds.
Omnipotent God and can not satisfy everyone, not to mention that I am an ordinary person? I did not use fat sheep wine to reconcile what is right and wrong, and what is right and wrong cannot be believed, and after hearing it, it cannot be spread.
Kings who blindly listen to their subjects may be killed; fathers who blindly listen to their sons may be slaughtered; couples may abandon when they hear slanderers; friends may sever diplomatic relations if they listen to slanderers; relatives may alienate when they hear slanderers; and neighbors may be alienated if they listen to slanderers.
Life has a seven-foot-tall body, be careful to hear rumors, there is a Longquan sword on the tongue, murder does not see blood.
Who doesn't talk about others in front of others? Who is not judged behind his back?
Tang Taizong said, "you speak very well. I will remember it!"
It is true that it is impossible for a person to please everyone, but as long as everything goes according to the right way and is worthy of the heart, other people's gossip should be ignored.
If people realize this, they will naturally save a lot of trouble. This should also be a reference and reference for us to deal with others in real life.
As long as you walk straight and worthy of your heart, you don't have to pay attention to other people's comments at all.
In the Northern Song Dynasty, there were two prime ministers, one named Sima Guang and the other Wang Anshi.
The two men's opinions differ by 108000 miles, one is a conservative, the other is a reformist.
Later, Wang Anshi won and took real power, and Sima Guang was driven down from the throne of prime minister.
At this time, the emperor asked Wang Anshi what he thought of Sima Guang. Unexpectedly, Wang Anshi spoke highly of Sima Guang as the pillar of the country and spoke highly of his character, ability and literary attainments.
Because of this, although Sima Guang lost the trust of the emperor, he did not fall into a miserable situation because of the fall of power, and was able to calmly retire from the rivers and lakes, recite poems and poems, and have plenty of food and clothing.
Fortune knocks once at least at every man's gate. As the saying goes, 30 years east of the river, 30 years west of the river.
Wang Anshi's strong implementation of the reform attracted too many attacks, so the emperor had to remove himself from office on the spot and reappoint Sima Guang as prime minister.
At this time, many people told the emperor about the black shape of Wang Anshi. The emperor listened to slanderers and sought the advice of Sima Guang to punish Wang Anshi's crime.
Unexpectedly, Sima Guang did not fall into the well, but sincerely told the emperor: Wang Anshi is jealous of evil, magnanimous and loyal, and his Majesty must not listen to slanderers.
After listening to Sima Guang's evaluation of Wang Anshi, the emperor said, "all are gentlemen!"
This is: the struggle for a gentleman is magnanimous.
What is the biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain?
The gentleman's demeanor is that he only immerses himself in doing things and solving problems, and does not talk about right and wrong and be a man. When it comes to things, not people, talk about things on a case-by-case basis.
The villain is characterized by not talking about the problem itself, but likes to tell people what to do. Good at targeting people, good at personal attacks, but do not want to solve problems.
A gentleman is harmonious but different, even though I do not agree with your point of view, but I absolutely respect your personality, things are still friends.
The villain is the same but not in harmony. On the surface, he likes to be polite, but in fact, he disagrees with you ten thousand in his heart, and it is a very despicable personality to see the right time to do bad things to you secretly.
What is the villain's most ruthless move?
Before attacking a person, they will try their best to put a hat on the person's head, label him, and deny him all in terms of character and morality, so that all his explanations are pale.
In fact, this is the best policy in the art of war: go to the army to cut down the strategy, and kill people first.
Therefore, I would rather offend the gentleman and be the enemy of the gentleman. Do not please a villain, more unwilling to accept the kindness of the villain.
To give you a word: stay away from villains, stay away from right and wrong.
Only solve problems, don't talk about others!
Respect everyone who is willing to solve problems, including your enemies!
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