Only when a person is alone can he be himself completely.
Whoever does not like to be alone, he does not love freedom, for only when he is alone is he free.
Schopenhauer
First, being alone can free you from the temptation of fame and gain in the outside world.
We are no stranger to socializing. Starting from waking up in the morning, picking up your phone to browse information, going out to say hello to people, eating and chatting together are all common social activities.
Go out to rely on friends, many friends easy to go, many people because of these words to make friends, for social and social, do not want to face the time alone.
Too many people attach a lofty label to socialization, but give an unbearable definition of loneliness, so they give too many young people the wrong guidance, always making them feel that they would rather cry in a failed society than laugh in a successful solitude.
There is such a story on the Internet: you are a firewood chopper, he is a sheep herder, you talked with him all day, his sheep are full, where is your firewood?
We can think of it this way: firewood choppers cannot afford to accompany sheep herders, and chatting all day does not bring any useful value. What is the point of such a low-quality social interaction?
In life, a lot of socializing is useless, there seems to be other people's contact information, but when you need help, it is just a futile phone call. Isn't that the case with Fan Shengmei in the TV series Ode to Joy? As a senior personnel, she claimed to have a lot of contacts. However, when her father fell ill and needed to borrow a large sum of money, the so-called big bosses and her pursuers found various excuses to refuse. In the end, no one could help.
In the final analysis, the social relationship between people is also a kind of equivalent exchange, others are not willing to help you, because he knows that socializing with you is not so valuable, it is not enough for him to dig out his heart and chest to help.
Instead of wasting time and energy to make so many innocuous friends, spend more time learning how to be alone better and enrich your life.
Lin Huiyin said that true calmness is not to avoid the hustle and bustle of cars and horses, but to build hedges and plant chrysanthemums in your heart. If you want to measure how strong a person's heart is, it depends on whether he can be alone.
Being alone can help us keep our hearts, let us feel the true meaning of life with our hearts, and sum up the revelations brought to us by the crazy and noisy life. This is a sign of a person's maturity and a sign of becoming strong and independent.
At this time, we are more based on faith to take care of our hearts, as long as we believe in ourselves, we will be extremely firm, then we are also lonely, but only by enduring loneliness and criticism can we find the most true self.
Second, solitude is the best value-added period.
In Chinese kung fu, there is a unique method of practice called closure, which is isolated from the outside world for a period of time and devotes itself to the practice of martial arts.
In the world of kung fu, the ultimate martial arts are created when you are alone.
Zhang Sanfeng concealed himself in the mountains and forests, practiced behind closed doors, realized Taijiquan, used softness to overcome rigidity, static braking, and constant response to change, and finally became a generation of master.
Yang Guo and Xiao Longnu broke up after the valley of despair, cumin alone, marketing bones, heart thoughts can not be disposed, but let him have enough time and energy to dive practice, so internal skills gradually, martial arts grow day by day, and finally create a gloomy soul, in the critical moment out of danger.
As a master of Wing Chun Boxing and even Chinese Wushu, Ip Man, the master of Wing Chun Boxing and even Chinese Wushu, likes to be alone with wooden stakes. Perhaps it is in this loneliness and silence that he explores a set of the most authoritative practical routines of traditional Chinese Wushu and finally enjoys a worldwide reputation.
Only those who are happy to be alone know how to observe, analyze and think in silence, can they see the uniqueness from the ordinary and sort out the clues from the chaos.
Third, being alone will make you meet better people.
When Zhuge Liang was fifteen years old, he followed his uncle to Xiangyang, Jingzhou to attach himself to Liu Biao. But he saw that Liu Biao was stupid and incompetent, he neither knew the military, nor could he know how to make good use of people, so he was not the master of the world. So he chose to live in seclusion and study hard.
During his ten years of seclusion, he made a wide range of friends with celebrities in the south of the Yangtze River and paid close attention to the development of the current situation, so he knew the situation of the world like the back of his hand. Every time he compares himself to Guan Zhong and Leyi, his resourcefulness and talent will not lose to anyone. Later, on the recommendation of Xu Shu, Liu Bei invited him to come out of the mountain, so that he was able to show his ambition and help the world.
When people are alone, they can get rid of all distractions, understand themselves more clearly, observe the changes of the surrounding environment more comprehensively, and give themselves better promotion and opportunities.
When you are good enough, you will naturally attract people who are equally good or even better.
4. Excellent people are often unsociable
When Han Han was studying in Songjiang No.2 Middle School, no one in the class paid any attention to him and no one spoke to him. Because what he does is different from others. Others are in math class, learning math, Han Han is writing novels; others are taking foreign language classes, learning English, Han Han is writing novels. Then after class, he took the novel and said to others, "you see, this is a novel I wrote in class. It's very good." Take a look. The students are at a loss, big brother, can you be admitted to college like this? So everyone ignored Han Han.
Compared with Han Han, Han Han's classmates have been shaped by society and become ordinary people in life. Most of the gregarious people end up being ordinary people.
The path that most people take will not make you stand out, they eventually become another passer-by, and being unsociable makes Han Han himself.
In fact, an excellent person tends to have more courage to go against the current and endure loneliness, and a good person is not a loner, but loneliness is more like a pleasure than talking to an uncongenial person. People are either vulgar or lonely.
People should not only have the skill of being in a group, but also the courage to be alone, but it is worth saying that the kind of loneliness that can achieve self-achievement is the most direct way to distinguish mediocrity.
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