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Li Gou: living in the eyes of his relatives
See who a person likes to be with in his daily life. If you are close to a sage, you can make a deep acquaintance; on the other hand, if you are in the company of a villain, you cannot make friends.
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Confucius: listen to his words and observe his deeds
After listening to his words, it depends on his actions. Some people talk too much and don't do it. Don't hand it over to such people.
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Zhuangzi: the drunkenness depends on the nature of wine.
Let a person drink freely, and then observe whether he can restrain himself and what he looks like when he is drunk. If drinking does not misbehave, words and deeds are rational and secret, then you can have a deep acquaintance; on the contrary, if the alcohol is inferior, etiquette and gibberish can not be made.
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Bai Juyi: see the hearts of the people over time
The trial jade will be burnt for three days, and the identification of materials must wait for seven days.
There are times when loyal ministers like the Duke of Zhou are vilified by rumors and suspected by everyone, and thieves like Wang Mang also pretend to buy people's hearts and are praised by everyone. Look at people not for a moment, but for a lifetime. Everyone who is good has a time when he is misunderstood and framed, while any bad guy has a time to deceive people.
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Wei Zheng: if you are rich, you will look at what you raise.
When a person is rich, it depends on how he spends it, who he spends it on, and where he spends it. If you have money, you will go to extravagance, so that people can never associate with each other.
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Liu Bang: know people but not their appearance
The more capable a person is, the more arrogant he is, and his behavior is difficult to make a good impression. Liu Bang's men ate him. At first sight, he was crazy and behaved strangely. All the princes were far away. Only Liu Bang saw that he was a talented person. Sure enough, he ate his knowledge and made extraordinary achievements.
Life, want to see the true side of a person, in fact, it needs a lot of things to reflect.
The best way to interact with people and have friends worth making is to first become the kind of people you want to make, and then take the initiative to attract good people as friends.
Friends do not ask for quantity, only for quality, high-quality communication always occurs between two excellent independent personalities. Its essence is that both sides sincerely appreciate and respect each other.
Others are their own mirror, we have been watching people, knowing people, making friends, in fact, just to be human!
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