Quite a few colleagues are watching "Let's get married!" In the TV series, everyone's discussion prompted the author to make up his mind that in order to reduce the number of human tragedies in the world, he was willing to risk universal condemnation and fantasize that female readers would realize the true meaning of life in the verbal criticism of this article. Let them live less young thoughts and more warmth of life.
Over the years, more and more female celibates have failed in marriage among their colleagues. As they get older, a considerable number of them begin to reflect on themselves and deeply repent for what they once thought was the right decision. But there is no medicine for regret in the world! The lost years can never come back.
Women who fail in marriage are never willing to admit that there is something hateful about poor people. They are never willing to admit that there is something wrong with their outlook on life, so their tragedies continue to cycle through their lives. The hateful here is not the kind of love and disgust in the world. It is a kind of naivety that does not match the age. Naivety lies in the fact that boys and girls may be cute. But for adults, it's kind of sad. If a female reader does not have the courage to look squarely at herself and is no longer willing to pursue her own happiness, she can scold her now.
But here's a piece of advice: friends who get frustrated in their lives will never suffer frustrations because of your bad luck. Maybe it's your understanding of life and things that has a problem. If you want to change your fate, it is necessary to look at the views that you are not willing to accept and shut out the door. All right, give it a try. Anyway, your past ideas didn't make you want to do what you want, which shows that it is necessary to look at life from a different perspective. And it is necessary to see some views that disgust you, because the views that you have readily accepted in the past have failed to give you what you want.
If you want to know the taboos of love and marriage, you need to consult your best friends. Because from their own point of view of love and marriage, it must be difficult to get an all-round understanding. However, the female compatriots in our lives often ask their best friends for advice whenever they encounter emotional problems, so no matter how deep the discussion is, they only understand emotional problems from the perspective of women. If it's because you're worried that men don't have anything good, then there's no need to worry about emotional problems. This may be exactly "Let's get married!" "in this TV series, Taozi, the heroine, is arranged with a male best friend. And this phenomenon is really common in the real life of young people.
From the male's point of view, this paper puts forward some opinions on women's understanding of emotional marriage for female friends who have a rough emotional life.
The first taboo in marriage: there is no cheating in marriage.
Marriage should naturally be based on honesty. But there is no such thing as asking for a marriage without cheating. This is like there is no pure sterile environment to meet the wishes of cleanliness addicts, so people need immunity. The same is true of emotional life. In real emotional marriage, including the high-quality marriage pursued by human beings, the parties must have immunity to adapt to the disharmonious life habits between each other and themselves. If you can't ask for a marriage without cheating, you can only master the ability to identify cheating. What is well-intentioned deception, what is malicious deception, what kind of deception should be treated vaguely. There are no shortcuts to life. High-quality life, especially high-quality emotional marriage, is a complex consciousness process. If we want them to be simplified and convenient for people's life, we can only rely on the tacit understanding of feeling. And the tacit understanding of feeling needs to live together for a long time. What needs to be reminded here is that there will be mistakes in feeling, and illusion is also a normal feeling of human beings. When you need to enjoy life with your feelings, you have to bear the price of illusion. Nothing in life is without a price. If you worry too much about delusions, it's like giving up eating for fear of choking. A high-quality emotional marriage is not a marriage without deception, but a tacit marriage. Whether your partner has betrayed your feelings or not, it is better to rely on the feeling of tacit understanding than to rely on sight or hearing.
You can ask for a marriage without cheating, which is your emotional marriage orientation, but not your marriage standard, so you can't take it too seriously. When you are cheated by a couple, use the tacit understanding of your feelings to identify. If you are not affectionate enough in your life, you can only bear the price of illusion. If you will not give up eating for fear of choking, don't worry about the illusion that an impure marriage is a real marriage, a marriage with vitality. If all you need is a pure marriage, please stay away from emotional marriage and be an outsider. If you are hard on life, life will be hard on you.
The second biggest taboo in marriage: always be reasonable at home.
What kind of place is home? A place where you can do what you can't do outside. Of course, due to different personal habits, there is a bottom line of adaptation. So when choosing a marriage partner, you should clearly understand each other's living habits, see if there is any place that you can bear the bottom line, and don't let passion blind your mind. When people are passionately in love, they can tolerate all the bad production habits of each other, but whether they can bear to live together for a long time must be confirmed before marriage. Most of the arguments in the family are due to different habits.
It is often said that a happy marriage should respect each other and raise eyebrows. In fact, these are the good expectations of the ancients, just like wishing that all lovers in the world are married, a wish word expresses the world's good expectations and helplessness for real life. In fact, according to some relevant surveys, couples who respect each other and raise their eyebrows will mostly end in two ways, either because of long-term depression and early death, or two people living in the same bed, and one or both of them have extramarital affairs. What really embodies the tacit understanding of the mind from beginning to end is extremely rare, and it is even harder to meet than the rabbit who is waiting for the rabbit. What is husband and wife? Husband and wife are able to give each other thoughtfulness that others can not give, to meet each other's physical and mental needs, including quarrels. Quarrels between husband and wife are often a tacit understanding. I remember reading such a plot in an article that the old couple had been in love all their lives, but they often quarreled in their old age, and their mother would often apologize to their father after the quarrel. Before the daughter went to work out of town, she begged her mother that her father was dying and should not quarrel with her father any more. Looking at her worried daughter, the mother sighed and said to her daughter, "son, you also find that your father is old!" He can't cheer up anything now, and the signs of aging are becoming more and more obvious, but only when he quarreled with me, he seemed to have regained his youthful appearance. When I quarrel with him, I often feel uneasy in my heart, for fear that I can't master it well and make your father angry. But if he does not quarrel with him, he will aggravate his aging. In fact, quarreling with your father is very tiring. You need to watch your words and carefully control your limits, that is, to stimulate his vitality, but not to go too far to make him angry. But seeing his satisfaction when I apologized to him, no matter how tired the mother was, the happy daughter was shocked by her mother's feelings for her father, and she relieved to work out of town.
Although the plot in that article may be mixed with the embellishments of the author, there is no shortage of couples with such tacit understanding in reality. An old chess friend told me that after his retirement, his wife did housework all his life. At first, he often did all the capable housework, but he often felt the loss that his wife could not find something to do. So when he does housework again, he always leaves a little bit in the end to show him that he can't work while his wife complains that he doesn't know how to work. Sometimes the wife didn't notice his elaborate foreshadowing, and he had to instruct her to quarrel with her, so that she could feel the relief of her own importance to the family from her anger. Marriage requires a lifetime operation, and the highest state of this kind of management is the tacit understanding of helping each other.
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