Many people may ask themselves this question: what is upbringing?
Some people say: breeding is to make others comfortable, and you don't suffocate yourself.
Some people say that upbringing is kindness that does not take advantage of others and is considerate of others.
Some people say that upbringing is not easy to be considerate of others.
They all talk a lot, but they are not as incisive as Chen Danqing said: upbringing is details.
The most important thing to get along with people is to have comfortable details, and the most easily exposed is the problem of upbringing.
Upbringing is what will betray you in the details.
Upbringing is not a reason.
It was inadvertently carved into the bone marrow.
Some people say that a person's character and upbringing can be known from his jokes.
A person jokes is often unintentional, a person's upbringing is reflected in this kind of joking carelessness.
Writer Cai Lan once told such a story:
Today's large organizations employ staff, and the final interviews are conducted in the restaurant.
The host family is deliberately late to see if you order first without waiting for others as soon as you sit down. Not drinking too much? I knew immediately that those who couldn't help it would have a strong one first.
When the food is served, it doesn't matter whether you hold the chopsticks and whether your posture is correct or not. that plate of fried chicken, you pick up a piece of fried chicken after flipping around, which determines your fate.
When eating, tut-tutting is a big taboo. How could a well-bred man make such an ugly behavior? Eat as soon as you eat, why do you still have to tut?
Sometimes, you don't have to see it from the dinner table, you don't even have to see each other, you can tell by listening to your phone.
Hold on! You said. The management has frowned, why not say please wait a minute? Is it so difficult to say this "please"?
In fact, it is not difficult to say, but you are used to not inviting, when you do not pay attention to politeness, your upbringing will be in these casual details at a glance.
And an educated person, what should his inadvertence be?
When others pour you water, don't watch, and you will hold it with your hands.
When he left the table after dinner, he said, "I'm done. Take your time."
Always use both hands when handing water and food to people.
Close the door when the last one comes in:
Wipe the table in your own direction.
Upbringing sounds great, but what you do is actually a small thing. True upbringing is unspoken, because it is a natural expression of noble personality.
A man's upbringing is hidden in his goodness.
A friend of mine was riding the Sichuan-Tibet line in 2013. when he was between Haizishan and Batang, he came across six long tunnels, three of which were more than 2000 meters, and the longest Lana Mountain Tunnel was 3500 meters long.
At that time, it was getting late, there was no light in the tunnel, and it was dark. His bicycle lamp was dead, leaving only a small flashlight, but the light was like a firefly, so he could not see the road clearly, could not see the exit of the tunnel, and could not sense the direction.
I heard him say that he felt very helpless at that time, as if he had been abandoned by the whole world.
Just when he panicked, a beam of light suddenly came from behind him, and he saw a car, which was driving slowly, speeding up until I left the tunnel safely, as happened five times in the back tunnel.
He came back and told me that this was the most educated man he had ever seen in his life.
This beam of light is just a simple headlight, but it can also be a sacred flame that illuminates someone's life.
As the ancients said: don't give up doing good, even if it's not important.
The noblest upbringing in the eyes of others may be a small act of kindness.
Details determine your success or failure.
Upbringing determines your level of life.
When I tried in primary school, I often saw a crazy beggar in the street. The beggar would pass by his mother's shop every day. When my father saw him, he would wave to him to come and bring him a bowl of rice from home, almost every day.
People around me laughed at my father for being friends with a fool, but my father never cared about other people's opinions. Every time the goods came back, the beggar would come to help unload the goods.
Then he disappeared from the town a few months later, and his father often read about him and sighed, "I don't know how he's doing now."
From then on, I felt that my father was kind and soft at heart, and his qualities were different from those of the ordinary people who were used to wearing tinted glasses to look at people.
Like most ordinary people, uneducated people often elevate themselves by belittling others and are complacent. In fact, such people often have a low level of their own.
Bi Shumin once said: you can kneel in the mud, but you can't put mud on the chest of the whole world, and therefore seriously say that there is dirt everywhere.
Uneducated people always advertise their correctness with great fanfare. In fact, upbringing is not about being superior to others, but about making others feel good in their own way.
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