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Some people say that we live in comparison all our lives.
When I was a child, when I was older than my partner, my job, my house, my car, my children, and so on, I was healthier and healthier than others, and I was more filial than any other child. I couldn't beat my jealousy, and I felt unhappy because there was something better than myself.
There is an old Chinese saying that you want to save face and suffer. No matter what you do, you can lose face, but you can't lose face.
Some time ago, I was chatting with a friend of mine, and he said to me, "you know, our former high school classmate Da Man was arrested for embezzlement."
I couldn't help being surprised that Da Man was the most honest and stable in my memory, how could he suddenly do such an irrational thing!
Ask the reason to know: not long ago, a large house has just been built, which is originally a loan, but in order to be able to give themselves a face-saving banquet at the time of relocation, they finally took the risk to become what they are today.
As said in "the first half of my Life", face is the hardest thing to let go and the most useless thing.
02
I have seen a sketch by Guo Donglin, "something you have to say", which pains face and suffers, depicting it incisively and vividly.
In order to make others think highly of him, he boasted with his colleagues that he had a relationship with the railway department, so his colleagues asked him to help him buy two train tickets. as a result, he stood in line to buy tickets at the railway station all night with a stool and a quilt.
Later, colleagues asked him to help buy train tickets one after another, but in the end, there was nothing he could do. He told the truth, but no one believed it. He could only taste the bitter fruit he planted.
People love face, but the result of paying too much attention to face is often losing face.
And the lower the level of people, the more face, in their eyes, face is bigger than friendship, greater than family, or even bigger than heaven.
Such people are often self-abased and have no confidence in their heart. they must prove themselves and in a way that others can see.
03
Max from the bankrupt Sisters of the American TV series said: I act like I don't like anything because I never get what I want.
Yes, often the more people show off something, the more they lack it.
Chow Yun-fat is one of the most thorough stars I have ever seen. Some time ago, Chow Yun-fat planned to donate 5.6 billion Hong Kong dollars to charity.
And his own life can be said to be simple, often a person wearing a leisure to go out, take the subway, squeeze the bus like an ordinary person.
He put it all down to: I just feel very comfortable.
When a person is strong enough to live, he no longer needs those formal nothingness at all.
People have their own aspirations, and some people like dignitaries in front of people, which is understandable, as long as they do not go against their own hearts, there is nothing wrong with living a decent life.
It's just that we have to understand that face is earned by ourselves, not given by others. Only when you let yourself be really strong first can you really have face.
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