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A few days ago, I felt particularly sorry to see the news that the doctor of Zhejiang University committed suicide by jumping into the river.
Cold window study hard for decades, what kind of despair, will choose to jump.
The collapse of adults has always been silent. If life is too difficult, please let yourself go, and don't give up on yourself.
It is inevitable to encounter pain and trouble in life, but you don't have to torture yourself for it. If you keep an eye on your failure, inferiority will occupy your vision. If you always cling to the past, you will miss the brilliance of the present.
Let go of yourself, do not torture yourself, is also an attitude towards life. Because in this era of eager for quick success and instant benefits, people only see whether you are successful or not, who cares whether you are tired or not.
It is better to let yourself go, don't worry, there may be only a little time distance between you and the better yourself.
02
A friend told me that he was always in a hurry, as if he wanted to run before he learned to walk, so he often made himself very tired.
Because their own actual situation is always different from their own expectations.
I feel the same way.
When you start to do something, you always want to be in a hurry and be recognized. Once something goes wrong in the middle, I begin to become anxious, uneasy, and even feel incompetent.
Wang Xiaobo said: all people's pain is essentially anger at their own incompetence.
I am accompanied by such a mood, in the deepest desire, efforts, torture, always can not accept that they are not good enough.
I remember a colleague told me that his greatest advantage is that he is good at forgiving himself.
When he made a mistake, when he didn't live up to his expectations, when he felt tired, he chose not to embarrass himself.
He also told me a secret to solving his troubles, that is, whenever he was unhappy, he would eat.
There is a good saying, nothing can not be solved by one hot pot, if there is, then two meals.
03
Recently, I have finished several new exotic conferences, and I like a writer named Cai Yao very much.
She said that people who are passionately in love want to eat hot pot together, those who are lovelorn want to buy a sweet Strawberry Cake, and the unemployed go home to cook a bowl of hot noodles, put a poached egg, and then hot some green vegetables.
Food can cure unhappiness, and then start a vibrant day after eating it.
If you are still in the mood to think about eating something good tonight, then your depression will soon pass, because you still have expectations for life, even if very small.
So, don't be too persistent in life, don't repeat and reinforce the unhappiness of the past, it will cover up the hope and light you can have.
The past, good or bad, has passed, has changed, and has become a memory.
Everything is changing, everything is new, everything will be all right, and returning to the present is the most important thing to do.
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