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EQ has become a necessary skill for everyone in modern society.
People like people with high EQ and find it pleasant to get along with them, because they don't always say hurtful things.
People with low EQ often make you feel very uncomfortable with a cold sentence, and sometimes they all have the impulse to hit him.
In fact, it is not difficult to understand that it is too painful to stay with people with low EQ.
You are always in a hurry, whether you come or not, you choke half to death with a word, but you look like a person who is all right.
Indeed, some people are really ignorant of the world, and it's not easy not to understand you.
However, when I see many people with low EQ, I find a phenomenon:
Nowadays, people like to talk about the interface of EQ in everything they do. It's easy for me to have a low EQ, please don't mind.
And those who especially like to use low EQ as an excuse to hurt others, to put it bluntly, you are not low EQ, you are simply bad.
02
Some time ago, my friend and I complained about one of her female colleagues.
The female colleague chatted with me at the beginning of the whole conversation.
No matter what the topic is, she can make a point. You can always talk about yourself, saying what I would do if I were you.
Throughout the chat, she has been around the topic about herself, and I feel like showing off all the time between the lines.
One day she complained in the office that she had no one to chase and might die alone.
My friends and some people who know her know that this person can't spit anything good out of his mouth, so no one picks her up.
But a new kind girl went over to comfort her and said:
Don't worry, it may be that fate hasn't arrived. I had this feeling before my boyfriend and I met.
Unexpectedly, the female colleague said to the girl, "Ah, even you have someone to ask for."
The girl smiled awkwardly after hearing this, but never spoke to her again.
Later, she was aware of it herself and went to others to apologize.
However, the words of apology are as expected. I speak more directly, do you mind?
The kind girl replied angrily: mind.
03
In many cases, the core problem of low EQ is not the way of speaking and not knowing what to say.
Instead, they feel no guilt about how words hurt others, but they are complacent.
My friend said a sentence and summed it up very well.
Sometimes, high EQ can't save you, because you can't hide the nausea in one's bones.
Huang Bo, who is praised as a representative of high EQ, once said a sentence that particularly moved me:
In fact, sometimes, the so-called high EQ is that you don't want to hurt others.
I am not an impulsive and aggressive person. There is softness in my personality, so I don't like to say things like that.
If you get along with more people, you will find that people with high EQ have one thing in common, that is, they have a good personality, they are very kind.
When you speak, you will think first. If what you say will hurt people, you will never say it.
Therefore, sometimes the most important thing to practice EQ is not the mouth, but the heart.
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