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Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have many problems since ancient times
The tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China is famous all over the world. Psychologists at the University of Cambridge in the UK have studied the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China and found that nearly 2/3 of families are troubled by the relationship, which they don't know how to get along with.
Daughter-in-law always complains that her mother-in-law takes care of too many things, and her mother-in-law is always dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law's behavior, and even feels that she has been left out because of her daughter-in-law's appearance.
Related literary and artistic works such as TV dramas emerge in endlessly, from "when the mother-in-law meets the mother", to "the beautiful manifesto of the wife", to "how the wife is made", making fun of the phenomenon of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in all aspects.
Just like adults always say: look at other people's children, people in this environment always like to say: look at other people's wife / mother-in-law.
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There are many reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
In fact, there are only a few reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in each family.
The first point is the concept of life. To put it bluntly, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are two complete strangers, the only bond is the husband / son, and the son can not be with them all the time in life, there is always a time to get along alone.
As a result, two people who have not run-in at all insist on living in the same environment, and when the initial sense of alienation and restraint gradually decreases, it is the explosive period of contradiction.
The second point is the generation gap. The age gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so big that it is said that there is a generation gap every three years. Under the impact of the Internet, everyone jokes that there will be a generation gap in three months.
There must be great differences between the two generations in old and new ideas, ranging from how many children to how much salt and vegetables are put in today. this difference in living habits and future planning has led to disharmony in getting along with each other.
The third point is the economy. When it comes to money, there will be conflicts in all relationships, whether it's family, friendship, love or mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The previous generation ate too much of the hardships of life, always thinking about the future, saving money as much as they could.
And this generation enjoys the present, what the future looks like to earn, but can not treat the present life badly.
In fact, when it comes to money, everyone has the possibility of falling out.
But in fact, most of the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in a kind of trivial matters. Behind this contradiction, there is no abominable conflict at all, which can be resolved as long as it is prevented and changed in advance.
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How to deal with the contradiction between mother and daughter-in-law
If every mother-in-law and wife in the world can make the greatest change, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law doesn't seem to be so difficult.
First of all, we should understand that, in essence, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and no matter how close they are, they are not really mother and daughter.
Just imagine that when you get along with your own mother or son, there will often be quarrels, and even the mother of your own child can not fully understand why two people are required to be strangers in nature. People who are forced to connect with each other because of a man are so close.
It is true that there are people in this world who can be as close as mother and daughter, but if not, they want to develop into a mother-daughter relationship, and this contradiction is naturally growing.
It is better to be a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, with more respect for each other and less false friendship.
In addition, families that can live separately should try not to live together.
If they have the financial means, their parents are in good health, and living apart can reduce a lot of conflicts.
After all, if you live under the same roof, today's mother-in-law does not knock on the door, and tomorrow's wife does not cook after work, it will be the flashpoint of contradiction.
Distance will produce beauty, mother-in-law to eat and stay one night a week, or the couple go back to help clean up the house and take an outing together, such a benign meeting is a good way to maintain a relationship.
Having independent space between husband and wife is more conducive to communication between them, and it would be better if mother-in-law can find her own hobby.
It is best to be busy with your own affairs and do your own things well in your own identity.
The so-called relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is originally a by-product of marriage. it is too difficult for two mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who have only interests and do not have any direct relationship to live peacefully in the same family for a long time. It is better to be apart and respect each other.
As a wife, you should know that it is not easy for a mother-in-law to bear hardships to raise an older son. as a mother-in-law, you should understand that girls are the apple of their eyes at home. Both sides are not adapted to such a new relationship, so why not be more tolerant and less picky.
Since ancient times, the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not necessarily how evil the mother-in-law is, let alone how clever the wife is.
My mother-in-law just wants her wife to think more about her husband's good, and her wife just wants to form an independent family with her husband.
May the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be tolerant, understanding and have a harmonious family environment.
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