This world always seems to be in a great hurry.
Everyone is in a hurry to get married, to get rich, to be promoted, and for their children to become talented soon.
We are always afraid that it will be too late, but we forget to look up at the scenery along the way and think about the meaning of our lives.
Time is good, what are you afraid of dying alone?
I have a colleague who is about to celebrate her thirtieth birthday.
In order to overcome the anxiety that she is still single but of marriageable age, she goes on a blind date almost every week.
Once when she went out for a drink in the evening, she said sadly that she was afraid that she would not meet someone she liked in her life, so she wanted to find someone to make do with her marriage, or she would end up alone.
I smiled, time is still good, afraid of what to die alone.
How can there be so few people around us who haven't met love for a long time? Just like my roommate, the girl of'86, she occasionally worries about how to meet the right person, but she never gets confused.
After all, with an annual salary of hundreds of thousands of dollars, she is busy with her work promotion in her spare time, chooses a place to spend her holiday every year, and can spend her days in English with strangers she knows for the first time. She has money and leisure, and she can live a good life alone.
What she often talks about is:
I spent all the previous time on making money. God has given you something, it is necessary to deprive you of something, it is impossible for you to take advantage of everything.
If it doesn't work out for the time being, there must be a better arrangement.
All you have to do is live well in the present, be yourself, everything you want, fast or slow, sooner or later.
This year, she got married. In the wedding photo, she hugged her lover and smiled like a flower in a grass-fragrant grass.
There is a good saying:
Girl, you don't work so hard to marry the right man of secular legend; you're so good, not to be a mother to your child, you never owe anyone a relationship, you don't owe anyone a child, you only owe yourself a happy appearance.
What you need to do is to keep yourself in good shape at all times and confidently say hello to that person when you meet love around the corner.
Live up to yourself, don't miss the streamer, do what you want to do, while the sun is right, while the breeze is not dry. The rest of my life is long, so why panic.
There are still many opportunities, don't be afraid of setbacks and failures.
I met an old friend I hadn't seen for years the year before last.
He is a medical student, studying all the way. When I saw him at that time, he had just graduated from PhD.
During the meal, he always lamented that he was very inferiority complex at the party. Because in order to realize his dream of saving lives and studying hard these years, everyone seems to have run ahead of him.
They look flamboyant, vigorous and complacent, and they are the favorites of heaven. When they speak, they are full of smiles in their eyebrows and eyes.
But he is more like a white-haired hothead.
I laughed at him: the rest of my life is still long, and it's too early to talk about success or failure.
Indeed, after two years on the post, my career went smoothly because of my excellent medical skills.
After all, for the endurance race of life, he who runs faster than cannot run far, and he who laughs last is the winner.
My high school Chinese teacher once talked to us about one of her classmates. For her dream of starting a business, she resolutely gave up the iron rice bowl that everyone envied and went to sea to start a business.
For several years, he always looked embarrassed when he met in private. after all, everyone had a career and lived a life without worries about food and clothing. And he is still a middle-aged man with an uncertain future and on the run.
But he talked about his dream, his eyes are glowing, do not talk about income, just insist on it makes him feel very happy.
Once a person meets what he really likes, he can burst into unlimited energy. I heard that he is now a very famous entrepreneur.
Success in life can never be defined by secular money and power. Being able to live a life in the way you like is a kind of success.
And if you can live the way you want, life will not treat you badly. Those lonely times will not be put up with in vain, and your happiness will eventually give you more surprises.
The rest of my life is still long, unhappiness is only temporary, why panic.
It will take a long time, what are you afraid of?
Do you still remember that Brother Shui who once became the most talked-about "strongest brain"?
This out-and-out Tsinghua high achiever was laughed at by the outside world and said that he knew how to live better:
Painting and calligraphy, design and creativity are first-class, can play guqin, can write piano score, is good at playing basketball at Tsinghua MVP, can do machinery, it is easy to be a robot, like nature, self-made ecosystem at home to create a set of undersea world
Taking care of children is also very Buddhist. He often takes his daughter to travel around the world. For exams, children are asked not to take the first place in the exam, because the first one has no friends.
I saw a conversation between him and a reporter:
Interviewer: your eyes have been injured and your eyesight is only a little over zero. Have you improved now?
He: no. So I read very slowly and laboriously, and it will be very uncomfortable for me to read for a long time.
The reporter asked: will you be anxious or reduce the use of your eyes?
He: no anxiety. All the organs of the human body, whether they are used or not, have to go bad in the end. Use them before they are completely broken. Besides, with such rapid technological progress, medicine may be solved one day. What's the hurry?
This conversation often makes me laugh.
In the movie Forrest Gump, there is a line:
In this life, people always spend a lot of time on boring things.
There is no need to sigh in front of other people's success, compared to what other people's climbing dragon attached to the Phoenix, prosperity, you are happy, is the first essence of life.
Try to be the best of yourself, and leave everything else to fate. You just need to meditate to feel your time:
To see the newly blooming flowers in the courtyard, to listen to the sound of rain falling from the eaves on a rainy night, to watch the pedestrians on the road on weekends, to raise a lovely dog, to boldly love someone, to live a safe and happy life.
Even if this world, let you take a lot of detours, misread a lot of people, bear too much sadness, but look up, you still have your pride, your dreams, and all kinds of indescribable luck.
Yu Xiuhua wrote in "rejoicing for no reason":
There is a continuous sorrow in my life and the story above it. I love this inexplicable life. I love the pride and the fog that emerges in my life. I thank myself for being humble and alive.
It will take a long time, what are you afraid of? it's too late, can't catch up, can't get there.
We must be strong in silence and in no hurry.
On the contrary, the more anxious we are, the more we have to accept it.
Accept temporary frustration, accept occasional frustration, accept the impermanence of the world, accept your own loneliness, accept the sense of powerlessness of irregular patronage, including the acceptance of yourself who is not good enough for the time being.
Just like my friend who has studied medicine for ten years, in the face of the success of others, he should learn to be calm and take his time to go his own way.
Turn on a light in the dark, bring an umbrella in the rain, feel sad, but don't die.
We must be strong in silence and in no hurry.
Hu Yiping wrote in "you do not panic, the world is not famine":
If you don't panic, the world will not be famine; if you are good, the world will be beautiful. Don't fight, don't fight, don't be arrogant, don't be in a hurry, and build a small world, even if it is insignificant in the eyes of others, it is this fullness and independence that makes the world beautiful.
The road to growth may be difficult, but after hard work, we will not talk about regret.
You, who have been walking around with the sea of people, will meet a person one day, who will meet you against the flow of people.
You, who have not given up your efforts, will one day look back and look back at the way you come, calm and confident, smiling like a flower.
May we all become such people:
Take your time when you encounter setbacks.
Look down on the vicissitudes of life and feel safe and sound.
Eyebrows and eyes are full of smiles, and smiles are full of magnanimity.
The rest of my life is still long, so why panic.
Be the best of yourself and meet the most beautiful time.
When you don't know what to do, calm down and study is the best choice.
For example, pick up English first. To speak fluent English is to have a little more confidence and be more comfortable in the workplace.
Even if you meet people from different cultural backgrounds, you can answer fluently, giving you more freedom in the pursuit of poetry and distance.
Recharge yourself with a fixed amount of time, abandon your introversion and shyness and be unable to actively express your personality, try to be a better yourself, settle down and forge ahead in the face of anxiety.
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