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The survey shows that most married women have had the idea of divorce.
This is not an unspeakable question, and most married women have experienced moments of disappointment in marriage.
When you prepared a meal, your husband didn't come back for dinner, and he didn't call you. You go on a business trip for a week, explain the chores before you go, and find that no one is going to do it when you get home. You told your husband to remember to attend parent-Child Day, but when the day came, he didn't show up for a long time.
A smile of the details, accumulated into a full of disappointment, husband's attitude, let you feel like a punch on the cotton.
You finally think seriously about divorce one night, and you cry and complain that marriage is too difficult.
In fact, you are not alone. Xiao s once said to her sister at the birthday party: I know marriage is difficult, but I hope I can survive.
02
I have read one of Rilke's words: if there is no success in marriage, persistence means everything.
In the movie "I am not Pan Jinlian", a man asks an old couple at the dinner table: what is the secret that you still look so happy after so many years of marriage?
The old couple replied: one word, be patient.
It is true that there can be no lack of patience in marriage, put up with small shortcomings that you have never found in each other, and endure small frictions in the habit of two people.
But if patience is the ultimate goal of our spiritual practice, many people are destined to be unhappy.
In marriage, unilateral patience and growth are doomed to be stubborn diseases. Only growing up together and the cognitive progress of two people is the so-called positive spiritual practice.
A little sister in the company said that recently there was some minor physical condition, and too much stress led to insomnia and neurasthenia, while her husband, like nothing else, paid no attention to her anxiety at all.
Her disappointment is inevitable, but she said: the truth of marriage is not beautiful, but there is always a person to bear more, and then grow together.
She knows that her husband also has his own pressure, and she can only move forward with mutual understanding.
Later, they had a frank conversation, and sure enough, both of them were burdened with the burden of their families, and neither of them said it, so she realized that she had made the right choice that she had not made a direct noise before.
Marriage is really difficult, but what's more difficult is that you have to learn to share for your loved ones and dry up all grievances and tears for life.
03
Marriage is not a fairy tale, but also destined to be a hard journey.
Love is like a little spray, marriage is like the sea. We try to tell each other that you can't see the spray standing in the distance, but every ebb and flow includes the rise and fall of the spray.
Don't be afraid of the ups and downs in your marriage, and don't worry about the difficulties of marriage beyond your imagination, because only when you have experienced wind and waves can you find the blue sea and sky particularly charming.
Married people should face marriage correctly, learn to communicate and tolerate each other, and hope that each couple can last until the end.
For those who are not married, you should know that marriage is a super marathon. I hope you can find someone to keep running with you.
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