Satellite TV broadcast an old plot: the wife drove her mother-in-law to a nursing home and stopped the children from talking to their grandmother on the phone, throwing away her mother-in-law's only lsquo; thought & rsquo;. Finally, my mother-in-law ran away from the nursing home and tried to commit suicide by throwing water. The man, who always gave in to his wife, drove frantically to find his mother. when he was lost, he remembered what his mother had said when he was lost when he was a child-lsquo; was here waiting for his mother & rsquo;, when he got there, just when his mother was about to throw herself into the water. One & lsquo; mother & rsquo; called back the desperate heart. The man picked up his mother and told his wife that his mother had to live at home and that if she couldn't accept it, she had to get a divorce. There is only one mother, and the wife can remarry.
The man's last words, without the previous plot, seemed ruthless. But after the birth of life and death, these words precisely activate the human nature in a body. As the saying goes, love me and my dog, when the wife has no room for her husband's parents, love no longer exists. If two people can still be together, it can only be a need for lust. At this time, any form of cheating is no longer a betrayal. The emotional oath between Jin GE and his fiancee Liu Wenting in the TV series "the Flag of War": I will go through fire and water to stop what you do not want, although it has some passionate taste of first love, but it is the lifelong emotional orientation of both sides of the marriage.
Husband and wife, can not bear the scourge of death for each other, can not say that you have not loved, can only say that the love is not deep enough. But if you really love, even if you don't love deeply, you should at least think about what you think, be anxious, love what you love, and show it in action. If one party fails to do this and falls below the bottom line and hurts the other's closest parents, then any behavior of the other party is not betrayal. If so, it is also the first party to fall below the bottom line of family affection and betray it first. Betrayal is not just physical, nor is it just empathy or the flood of desires. Marriage is not just a matter between two people, at least it includes accepting each other's closest parents. If you refuse, even if you are still together, love becomes lust, since there is no love, how can you betray?
The vast majority of extramarital affairs have a process of accumulation. Psychological research shows that it is a kind of human nature for both men and women to change their minds. From a spiritual point of view, men are more likely to change their minds than women in the early stages of marriage, but the longer the marriage lasts, the more likely women are to change their minds than men. It's just that most women just think that as long as their men can always stay by their side and let them vent their discontent, most women will not take the initiative to have any physical infidelity. But most men are not, the body along with the soul, often put into action.
Normal men without physical infidelity can be divided into three categories: one is that they do not have the opportunity and do not have the conditions; the second is that they have the opportunity but the safety factor is not high, and the wife can still meet their basic physical and psychological needs. The third category is very rare, and the wife can meet his physical and psychological needs as a man and make him emotionally loyal.
In particular, I would like to remind the female compatriots that the husband's emotional loyalty is acquired by the wife with emotion and sacrifice. So don't envy other sisters that they have a loyal husband. There has never been an one-way couple in this world. Many women feel that they have given their bodies to their husbands, even if they are in love, unable to distinguish between love and lust. Doesn't love come too easily? now many realistic high-tech sex products can meet men's basic physiological needs (because Chinese mainland's adult sex education is still off-limits. Some high-end sex products often give men a sense of satisfaction higher than the physical satisfaction that most wives give their husbands), but that is not love. Because it has no soul, no matter how realistic it can only be a kind of feeling, not the interaction of life, it can not meet the psychological needs.
Quite a lot of female compatriots, as soon as they hear what they want women to do for men, they shout loudly why! Until the marriage came to a dead end, he was still digging around for the fault of the husband. Sex is an eternal topic for human beings. Most of the sexual topics of adult men together do not talk about their wives, as if they are private and can not be known to others. However, when female compatriots are together, they mostly talk about husbands. The sisters taught each other how to control their husbands. As everyone knows, the most effective way to drive a man is to give with true feelings and selfless sacrifice in life. If the way of driving a man that is popular among mortal women is effective, what kind of quality man must be married to become a reality!
As the saying goes, women are not cheap, they are physically defective. The lowliness here is not mean, but refers to the gender behavior of women. The traditional idea is that you can go up to the hall and down to the kitchen. In fact, this is just a rhetorical device of metonymy (using part instead of the whole), using the hall to refer to the spiritual needs of men, and the kitchen to refer to the physical needs of men. But many female compatriots understand this idea too narrowly, and teach each other that if you want to tie a man's legs, you have to grasp a man's stomach. If you feed the cell, everything will be all right? What kind of man is that? Isn't it a pig?
In our society, yellowing does not consider minors and anti-pornography does not consider adults. For adults, Huang is like three meals a day. Eating sex, too! To put it bluntly, the fight against pornography in our society is influenced by many interests. The lack of formal sex education for adults is a fatal defect in adult education in Chinese society. Europe and the United States, which we misunderstand as sexual abuse, have also cracked down on pornography. It's just that people fight pornography in order to protect minors, not including adults. As long as adults do not break the law, men and women are willing and the law does not interfere.
But law cannot replace morality, nor can morality replace law. The European and American countries with a higher degree of civilization are not as misunderstood by some of our countrymen that men can be married and women can be married. If you are not loyal to your marriage, your political career will be affected and your employment will be affected. Can become an obstacle in many aspects of life. How can you be loyal to your country if you are not loyal to your family workers? If you are not loyal to your small family, how can you be loyal to the group (work unit)? As a result, voters will not accept the extramarital affair scandal. By the same token, a person who has an affair, although the law does not interfere, but the employer will doubt your loyalty, who will be willing to use an untrustworthy person! Unless you have skills that no one else can replace.
Westerners believe that marriage is a kind of contract. Now that you have made an agreement, you must keep your word. The relationship between husband and wife has risen to the height of the concept of the legal system. Unlike us Chinese, marriage is a form of love. How big is love? How much? Betrayal often depends on personal feelings. Unlike the concept of westerners, it is operable. According to friends who have come back from abroad, movies are shown in cinemas in Europe and the United States at different levels, and adult movies are absolutely not allowed for minors. Some TV stations broadcast some adult TV programs late at night. This is originally a kind of civilization, but it is regarded by our people as a symbol of life erosion. People have come up with specific measures to restrict these unavoidable human problems for many years. But we are still dealing with pornography in the form of sports.
If we don't talk about social problems today, I just want to tell my female compatriots that there might as well be a little yellow between husband and wife, but we must pay attention to avoiding the children. This is a major problem related to the physical and mental health of minors. In fact, the prevention of infidelity often lies in many details of life. For example, when walking on the road, the wife puts on her husband's arm; she tidies up her husband's clothes when she goes out (it's just a process, and you have to go up and fiddle with your clothes when you're normal). Pay attention to your husband's footsteps at night and open the door before he knocks (not often, but occasionally, but look through the mirror and don't let the wolf in)
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