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Recently, there is a program called "Adventure Life". The host Aya takes ice to experience some adventures in the world.
In the latest issue, Aya took the actress to chase the tornado in spring and summer.
In this program, Spring and Summer tells a lot about my views on love and marriage.
Chun Xia said: all the women in my family have been divorced, and I have not seen the shadow of a happy marriage in any of them.
So Chunxia thinks she can't get the pleasure from her marriage. Although she believes in love, she is worried that she will not be able to maintain it.
Spring and summer rose to fame by virtue of "looking for plums in the snow" and won the film queen of the Academy Award.
But after listening to her tell the story of her growing up about her parents' divorce and a series of other things.
It is not difficult to find the similarities between spring and summer and the movie "searching for Plum in the Snow".
In Life of Adventure, we can deeply feel the longing for intimacy in spring and summer, the search for sense of security, and the definition of self-position in emotion.
Some time ago, Zhang Yuqi's divorce frequently appeared on Hot search.
Netizens all like this social sister who dares to love and hate. Because she has established the image of an independent woman who has money and face without relying on men.
For a moment, it seems that it is not affected by love, not imprisoned by marriage has become the label of women in the new era.
But in fact, Zhang Yuqi is in great need of love in her heart.
Zhang Yuqi's parents divorced when she was three years old, and she grew up with her mother.
Not only early to earn money to support the family, but also said in the interview that he is used to taking care of his mother, because the mother is like a child.
Chun Xia was worried that she would not be able to maintain her marriage and love, and Zhang Yuqi's divorce also showed that she did not maintain her marriage.
In this untenable situation of love and marriage, everyone is in a state of panic.
But it also raises a new question: do we all need love and marriage in our lives?
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On a talk show, comedian Daniel once revealed that he asked his father a question when he was 7 years old.
He asked his father: what is the meaning of life?
His father told him: life is like a jigsaw puzzle, we spend life, and then little by little slowly put it together.
Based on experience and lessons learned, until you spell out the best-looking pattern.
But unfortunately, everyone lost the jigsaw puzzle box, no one knows what the final pattern is, we can only guess.
So when there is no pattern to refer to, the best way to do the jigsaw puzzle is to find four corners, namely, family, work, friends and hobbies.
With the deepening of life, some pieces will change, we continue to piece together puzzles.
Daniel asked his father: what is the most central location?
Father told Daniel: it's a partner's piece.
If you can't fill the central position, then your life will always be incomplete.
This partner is a perfect match for you, you have never met, he appeared out of thin air, matched your life, filled your void.
Your life is perfect.
As an adult, Daniel has always remembered his father's words, and he is constantly looking for this man in the vast crowd.
But he never found it. Instead of feeling sad and depressed, he felt happier when he was single.
One day, Daniel woke up completely.
He said: what my father said is both wrong and correct.
Because the most central piece of the puzzle is not the partner's piece, but the happiness piece.
It's just that the father's partner piece and happiness piece are the same.
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In this world, the experience of many people tells us that life should find a partner, one room, two people, three meals, four seasons.
But those who tell us the beauty of love and marriage are just pieces of partners that happen to be the same as pieces of happiness.
We are told from an early age about the importance of love and marriage, so that when we don't have both, we feel incomplete and incomplete.
We all attach too much importance to intimacy, which occupies too high a place in our hearts. It is a symbol of the integrity of life.
We spend our whole lives searching for the right person in the vast sea of people.
But in fact, we were all deceived.
The center of life is that we can find something we can be happy for and work hard for it all our lives.
Love or marriage, these are not the center of our life, happiness is.
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